I would love to know what you all think. My ds is 6 and I am having a really hard time with him. Basically he is angry and miserable and crying for a large part of the time. Over the years I have analysed (probably over-analysed) why he is like this. He's very strong minded, hates being told what to do, and has a very short fuse. I have looked at my own behaviour and tried hard to modify it in ways I think will avoid him going off on one.
I have become better at handling him, but his behaviour hasn't changed much, if at all over the years. I'm trying to accept that this is his personality but it is so exhausting being with a child who says he hates everything, cries in anger and frustration so much, and tells me every night that "today was horrible".
I talk to him and listen to him etc etc. But it is all the time, moaning and whining and crying and hating everything.
Some examples from today:
We went to buy shoes. All fine initially. Tried on 2 pairs he liked, the same shoe but different sizes. First pair were too small, second pair fitted. But he wanted the ones that were too small. I explain why we are getting the ones that fit. Nice shoe shop lady tried to say lots of positive rational things to him, but he was already crying and saying how he hated the shoes etc etc. Shop lady looks uncomfortable, I ignore him and pay for the shoes. He finally stopped crying about the shoes about an hour later, as we were arriving home. I gave him an ice lolly from the freezer and put the TV on. 2 minutes later he appears shouting and crying because the ice lolly dripped on him, and telling me he "hates this day so much."
I can deal with these situations ok I think, I use a lot of the "how to talk" suggestions, which I supose are helpful in the short term. I just find it all so wearing, and wonder all the time why he gets so angry over what to me are little things?
Are some children just like that and there's nothing you can do? He makes life so hard for himself.
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Are some children just born angry and negative?
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DirtyKnees · 05/08/2009 17:00
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