I don't know whether this should be in this topic, so sorry if it's in the wrong one This all happened yesterday.
I went to visit my family yesterday and we had a lovely day. We were having a cup of tea and cake near home time, when we get talking about DD's new haircut (i cut her fringe thursday night) and how my grandma had my hair cut off when i was DD's age. It soon turned into some quite shocking revelations. The reason my grandma had my hair cut was because when i would go there at the weekends i would arrive filthy, with dirty, matted hair that couldn't be brushed easily (i had a lot of hair that needed brushing regularly), i would be dressed in filthy clothes and would be in desperate need of a bath. (quite bad, but nothing terrible) Apparently my mother had tried to get me taken into foster care and when my grandma found out she started making moves to get my dad to get custody of me. At first they wouldn't allow it simply because my grandma fed me well enough at the weekends that i had enough to survive on during the week when my mum forgot to feed me (i was 18mo) which technically meant i wasn't starving although i was very underweight. The deciscion was made a couple of months later when my mum had got someone's kid to look after me so she could go down the pub and they left me on my own. Normally she would take me to the pub where i was often in just a nappy that wouldn't have been changed since the morning. That was all the solicitor needed. She also took my sister just wrapped in a towel (aged 3mo) to her parents, and asked them to look after her while she went shopping and didn't ask for her back until she was 4yr old. In that time she looked after her once and my sister fell down the stairs and fractured her skull. My mother didn't do anything, just put her to bed and when her parents come to collect dsis she wouldn't wake up, and my mum told them she had fallen down the stairs so they took her to hospital.
I now know why my sister can't forgive my mother of abandoning her, she knew all the horrid details that i didn't.
I was supposed to see my mother yesterday evening but had genuinely run out of time, but somehow felt guilty for not going to see her. It has made me feel completely thrown and i don't know what to think.
I know there are children much worse off, and i do feel lucky that i got a proper upbringing by my dad and grandparents, but at the moment it is taking a while to sink in and i would appreciate anyones views on this and any advice.
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