I'm afraid with that much of an age gap, I'd be having a serious chat with the 10yr old about bullying! He is old enough to take into account that he is dealing with someone who is not yet even 2 years old and to be more caring!
yes i mean physically. everytime ds2 follows ds1 into the hall/his bedroom ds2 ends up crying with ds1 suddenly proclaiming rather too loudly "Oh dear you have fallen/ banged your head/hur your toe" etc.
Hecates, I said it before I am sending ds1 to you for a week lol.