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we trust these people to care for our children!!!

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rhubarbyou2 Wed 10-Jun-09 22:08:11

am probably in some form of shock that a nursery worker,who is a mother herself could do this,and the sickness in my stomach i feel for the children and parents of the children who she cared for,its devastating. this has hit me quite hard probably more so that again today my husband has been late home from work,but this time its because how scary is this,hes had to remove a caretaker out of a primary school because he was behaving inappropriately with young girls,an invetigation will follow and what they will uncover i dont know,but i tell you what i'll be even more clingy who i trust my children with,its madness !!!

tummytickler Wed 10-Jun-09 22:13:32

i know - it is awful. I really feel for those poor families. Words fail me that anybody could be that fucking vile.
I dont know the latest, but hopefully it is some kind of terrible misunderstanding.
your poor dh also - that must have been awful.
I have always been a bit funny about who i leave my dcs with though - my parents and our wonderful nursery only.
Dh is a bit offended that his cousin (like a brother to him) is never allowed to babysit, even whilst i pop to the shops, but that is how it is and i know he will respect that. I dont think every man and hos dog is a paedophile at all, but i feel freaked out about t leaving them with anybody else and i dont care whose feelings are hurt tbh.

rhubarbyou2 Wed 10-Jun-09 22:18:33

my husband is the best dad and loves his girls infinately,hes already super super clingy,and is boarding the girls in a school just for girls till they reach 21,this part is him joking i hope! but what is wrong with these freaks,i'm sorry but just can't or won't ever have any form of understanding for them

tummytickler Wed 10-Jun-09 22:34:42

I agree - i have no interest in undestanding them or sympathising. Lock them up and throw away the key i say (and in a more passion filled moment i say - bring back the noose - runs away and hides!)

rhubarbyou2 Thu 11-Jun-09 07:49:49

having a family member who adopted a child from parents who unfortunately the birth dad was a paedophile,and reading the court documents that came with the childs background reports,the prison had reported these people cannot be rehabilitated as they do not accept responsibility for their actions,this monster had been in prison multiple times over a 30 year period,rape of young men and his favourite toddler boys,i agree with you, and as a total couldnt step on a bug type it should be the death sentence for these monsters i have seen snippits of the late news last night the nursery nurse worked with babies and toddlers who couldnt tell what had happened to them they were so young and shes worked in childcare for over 10 yrs how many kiddies has she damaged,it doesnt bear thinking about

saintmaybe Thu 11-Jun-09 07:53:16

she hasn't been convicted

rhubarbyou2 Thu 11-Jun-09 07:59:42

your right and yes perhaps chillpill needed,but i am sad to say i think it looks pretty clean cut and the evidence against her is looking pretty damming,i would love this to be such a mistake having a good healthy relationshp with my own childrens nursery and having had my own children in nursrey whilst i worked from a very young age,we can only hope

SoupDragon Thu 11-Jun-09 08:04:29

These people are not common. It was s nursery worker. Not all nursery workers.

SoupDragon Thu 11-Jun-09 08:05:13

a nursery worker

rhubarbyou2 Thu 11-Jun-09 08:32:56

its not the job title its the position of trust,my husband has to be involved in doing the enhanced criminal records checks and a chill was sent through him when one of his seniors said to him "these are only any good for the people who have already got the criminal record,what about the ones who are offending and have not been caught"its a security blanket thats not so secure and realisticly we cant do anything to stop things happening

piscesmoon Thu 11-Jun-09 08:44:22

You have to bear in mind that it is very, very uncommon in a nursery and not let it damage your DC by being over protective as a result.

southeastastra Thu 11-Jun-09 08:46:02

there is another checking system being launched soon as well as crb. don't get in a state before you know the facts either.

southeastastra Thu 11-Jun-09 08:46:20

vetting and barring it's called iirc.

Castiel Thu 11-Jun-09 08:50:28

Oh dear. I find reactionary threads like this distasteful and wildly uninformed.

rhubarbyou2, do you know there's another poster called rhubarb? Just letting you know. I'm sure there will be no confusion as you seem very different to the original rhubarb but you may want to consider changing name.

rhubarbyou2 Thu 11-Jun-09 09:04:19

my husband tends to have the issues more than me probably because of his involvements,pisces i do worry but feel its the normal parental type and would hope its not projected onto the kiddies,they are lovely ,confident,crazy and very friendly kiddies,but will bear that in mindsmile.castiel-didnt know nother rhubarb,new 2 mn could it be a problem?

mynamewasgone Thu 11-Jun-09 09:09:09

CRB's are a waste of time. I work with young children and have to have one every 3 years.

Just because a CRB is clear on the day it is issued, what about the 3 years inbetween, A lot can happen in 3 years.

There has got to be a better way

rhubarbyou2 Thu 11-Jun-09 09:17:57

and just so you can see it isnt an attack on any career,just a reaction to how sad i felt about this last night,i myself worked in school nursery for a short period of time and it is something i will be going back to

Rhubarb Thu 11-Jun-09 13:48:33

'Tis obv not me, so not bothered.

Sorry for hijack, do carry on.

rhubarbyou2 Thu 11-Jun-09 14:15:01

rhubarb feel like naughty kid caught in the act,neighbours have loads of rhubarb and always givin it us,hence the name. and if by any chance you know anything bout said rhubarb please give us some hints our rhubarb crumble tasted like shite and we keep throwing the stuff away rather than upsetting the neighbours

Rhubarb Thu 11-Jun-09 14:36:50

They're probably giving you the mature big stalks that they would know, are stringy and horrible. So basically they're keeping the good stuff for themselves. Next time just say "thanks, I'll use that on the compost!"

SolidGoldBrass Thu 11-Jun-09 14:40:39

IF this woman is guilty of any crime and it doesn't turn out to be either a misunderstanding or a malicious accusation (haven't read coverage but until a person is convicted of a crime they are innocent of it), then this is still something that's incredibly rare. So let's see if people can manage (for once) not to be completely fucking stupid in calling for even more laws that either already exist or are unworkable.

GetOrfMoiLand Thu 11-Jun-09 14:41:18

lol at two MNers called Rhubarb swapping tips on eating rhubarb grin

Sorry, will bugger off now

Rhubarb Thu 11-Jun-09 14:47:28

grin

FluffyBunnyGoneBad Thu 11-Jun-09 14:50:27

My son was harmed by a staff member at the nursery he attended. He came home with small bruises on his arms, I didn't know what they were, they told me that he'd mess about with the other children. He came home with two small scabs on his head one day, they were really thin like the ones you get off carpet burns. His behaviour went really down hill and I didn't know why. It went on for 2 weeks, I sat him down and asked him if anyone had hurt him, he said a male member of staff had sat him on the sink and shouted at him. He told me that he (ds) had spat at him and the staff member hit him across the head. I contacted the NSPCC, then social services the next day and didn't take him back. They didn't do much, just referred in on to Ofsted. He was left working there and I was later (a couple of years) told by another parent that her son said he'd been hit by him aswell. I found out he's working in a school but I don't know which one. Ds still has problems, he does not react well if he's shouted at and I often see him shake and back off. He has problems talking and trusting people. I have a therapist coming for a chat next week as nothing I've done has helped this and I don't want to leave it. He was offered no support by social services. It does happen, it's so sad and it shouldn't but it does. I know that emotional and physical abuse isn't the same as sexual abuse, I just wanted to share this.

sarah293 Thu 11-Jun-09 14:55:02

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