I've been friendly with a few mums since our children were babies and we regularly get together for the children to play. But now our older children are almost 4 I'm finding play dates so stressful. We're all SAHM so really appreciate seeing each other but to be honest, I'm not sure I want to host any more playdates. The bickering, crying, and poor behaviour of the children when they get together is driving me nuts. (And I have to say it is the older children and not the younger siblings that cause the problems). The children all want to meet up, and can play nicely but it is punctauted by these episodes of fighting, crying and naughtiness.
I don't want to be too specific in case my friends use mumsnet, but today, some furniture of mine got damaged and I'm furious about it. My child wasn't involved (but she's no angel so I know on another occasion could have been) and the children were told off by their mums as soon as they realised what was happening but I'm cross. They don't realise the furniture got damaged, and I don't want to tell them because there's nothing I want them to do about it- i don't want them to pay for it to be repaired for example. And they're good friends and would be absolutely mortified if they knew. But I don't know what to do- we regularly meet in each other's homes so it wouldn't be fair of me to never host a turn. I don't think I can suggest we always meet away from home without it seeming suspicious.
Does anyone else find playdates fraught and what has your solution been?
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Does anyone else find playdates hard with pre-schoolers?
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Fayrazzled · 04/06/2009 18:39
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