I've posted about this before but I'm still desperate.
What do you do if your child aged four will not ever do as you ask even though you have tried:
- the naughty step
- rewards like on a sticker chart
- a toy box for confiscated toys
- explaining why something needs to be done i.e. putting shoes on or stopping T.V.
- putting in bedroom (or car if we're out) for continued aggression or uncooperation
- removal of bedtime stories
- bribery like a chocolate
I'm not keen on the bribery because I feel it sends the message all he has to do is be difficult to get sweets.
Any ideas I've not tried yet? My DH thinks a smart smack on the bottom will do the trick. I think it will beget more violence from DS.
Nothing seems to get the desired effect. I have a surly, aggressive, shouty little boy whose behaviour for the past two years has shown him to be very controlling i.e. must have his own way all the time or he gets extremely angry and starts flinging chairs onto the floor, slamming doors, kicking walls etcr. This is every day at least four times a day.
I don't understand why after all this time DS thinks it's a good idea to still be hostile and uncooperative when all he gets is tellings off and removal of treats.
I mean, Pavlov's dogs figured it out pretty quickly, didn't they? Why can't he? Does he love drama and exhausting tears and hysteria? It's very boring and wearing.