My dc's came out of school the other day with their friends, (who are brother and sister!), all similar ages. My two were asking if the others could come home for tea and their friends were very keen to do this. Their mum said no, not tonight, cue downcast faces. I was thinking she was prob wondering if I really wanted it at such short notice. I often wouldn't but it wasn't a problem this particular day.
I said, "Well they can come for a bit, I'll do something quick and easy like chicken nuggets!" All four children cheered but their mum shot me a look.
"Thank you", she said out of earshot of children. "Another night of them disappearing straight after school, I'll just struggle with homework and another late night when they get back again, when shall I pick them up?"
I went home feeling distinctly uneasy, couldn't backtrack as all four kids were half way down the street by then! I did ask if it had been a problem when she came to collect them and she wavered. She said generally if she says no to something she'd rather another parent didn't override her and say yes. She said she'd rushed from work to make the school run, all for nothing she felt.
I felt awful and apologised, saying I hadn't realised, she just gave me a forced smile and thanked me for having them. Anybody think I was in the wrong? Looking back now, I can see why it could have annoyed her but I was also put on the spot!
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A quick question about keeping everybody happy after school (inc. other parents)!
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onthepier · 16/05/2009 15:45
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