Calling all mum's who had their first child at 36+ and went on to have more....

[Thankyouandgoodnight]

How many do you have and what age gaps and how do you find it?

I had my first at 36, my 2nd at 37 and am desperate for a 3rd. DH not sure and he's not ready to think about it yet. DC2 is 6 months old and I'm going to be 40 next year.
Just wondering how long I've realistically got

[stripeytiger]

Thankyouandgoodnight, I had my dd at 36 and ds at 38, there are 20 months between them. It has been bloody hard work and looking back I wish I had started my family in my early thirties. I would say if you are thinking about having no. 3 then go for it now as in my experience having young kids in your 40s is knackering.

[ChippyMinton]

I had DS1 at 37, DS2 13 months later and DD 15 months after that. I left it a bit late and wanted to be finished by 40. It's an abitrary date but was important to me for some reason.

[Tee2072]

thankyouandgoodnight come on over to 40+ Mommies in the pregnancy folder. We're all 40 or older (except me, I'll be 40 5th Feb) and are either pregnant or have several children!

[juuule]

Does it matter if it's not first child?

If not, I had my 6th at 37, 7th at 38, 8th at 40 and 9th at almost 44.

Pregnancies/births straightforward.
Life and stuff not really different to having the other children when I was younger.

[Gateau]

Am 39 and have one DS of nearly 21 months. Am desperate for another DC but have had two recent mcs.
I am worried these happened because of my age. I am so cared I ma no longer ovulating are that my eggs are no longer of as good qaulity as they used to be.
Nevertheless we are still trying. I ideally wanted to have my second by the time I was 40 but this may not happen now. I just want another child, it doesn't matter when.

[eekareindeer]

Had my dd at 38. Then a gap of 2 years and 8 months and my ds just two weeks before my 41st birthday.

I am just about the oldest mum I know, but only by a few months.

I honestly don't think I've found it any more tiring than I would have done if I'd had them 10 years younger. 40 is not that decrepit!

[juuule]

Gateau I had 2 m/c before my last baby and 2 after. So that's 4 losses out of 5 pgs after 40.
However, I have also had 4 m/c before 36y so although the rate of m/c increased after 40 I do seem to be one of those people who m/c anyway.
All you can do is keep trying and hope that one 'sticks'. That was how I felt anyway.
Good luck

[JulesJules]

I had DD1 at 41 and DD2 28 months later when I was 3 months off 44! It's fine!!

[Gateau]

Thank you very much juuule. You have given me a lot of encouragement.
I too had a mc before I was 36, so maybe I too am a person who miscarrys.
Wow, you have nine children. How wonderful!
I wish I had started early in order to have more children; mind you, going by you, I could potentially still do so!