Can anyone give me any pointers about what to say to my very intelligent and sensitive three year old DS about death without frightening him?
Neither DH nor I hold any religious beliefs and although obviously we're happy for DS to find his own way in that department I don't feel comfortable talking about heaven or souls etc.
Basically, DH has finally got his head round the fact that his grandmother is DH's Mummy and now he wants to know why he can't see my mum. Both my parents are dead, as is DH's father (but I guess as he doesn't have any grandfathers it hasn't occurred to him to ask about them yet). Additionally one of our goldfish was floating in the fish tank the other day and I told DS that it might not get better and die. He got a bit upset but whilst I ws dithering about how to handle it all and use it as a brilliant learning opportunity DH took it out now and DS hasn't asked again.
I know you should only answer children's immediate questions and I've got as far as saying sometimes people and animals get very ill and they can't get better so they die but I'm dreading him asking me whay dying is or what happens next. Especially because of my mum. It was bad enough being orphaned at 20 but I don't want DS to start worrying about what will happen when DH and I die.
How have you handled this one?
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How to talk to 3 year old DS about death
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thehouseofmirth · 26/10/2008 07:37
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