Please don’t shame me in this thread. I already feel absolutely awful. This isn’t how I want to parent. It’s not a regular occurrence at all but very occasionally my kids (especially the middle one) pushes my buttons so much -mainly screaming in my face or pushing/shoving/hitting me and before I know it I have smacked them. It’s almost a split second reaction and I feel absolutely terrible about it. Afterwards I make sure to apologise and we try to process calmly what just happened and heal the relationship but it absolutely isn’t okay. I’m much bigger and stronger than them and need to control my reactions better. I know it’s no excuse but I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and my impulse control is appalling generally. It’s like it happens in a split second so I need to work out how to not get into situations where me losing it will happen.
My parents were the same with me and I know the bewildered hurt of someone who is supposed to love you doing that. (They didn’t apologise after though). I need strategies to try and avoid this situation from happening again. It’s abusive and it’s setting them up with awful ideas about what’s acceptable in relationships. How can I teach them domestic violence is wrong and never stay in a relationship with someone who hits you when I am guilty of doing that too them? Please help.
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Help with anger management (smacking)
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LadyCurd · 09/11/2020 08:05
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