1 year old and 3 year old

[GemMann84]

Hello everyone,
I have a 1.5 year old and a 3 year old who share the same room
1.5 year old has a 1.5 hour nap through the day,
3 old doesn't nap anymore only on rare occasion.
Both go to bed same time 7.30pm
3 year old runs round all night and I go numerous times into bedroom to try and get him back into his bed.
I hear him running around below for hours,
1.5 year old is still teething so most nights he screams the house down at bed time.
I keep same routine,
Bath brush teeth and bed.
I read them a story lights out then I leave room.
Then 3 year old is running havoc and 1.5 is screeming.
Is there anything I can do to help stop this as neighbours are complaining and I'm out of ideas thanks in advance

[Piixxiiee]

What happens if you stay until 3 year old asleep? I've been there- same age difference and remember it well. Sleep wasnt and still isn't our family strong point!!! But I did have to stay with them at that age otherwise it was a free for all! Tried music on low in background? Lavender oil is great too- humidifier or just dabbled on pillows.

[workingfortheclampdown]

Can you split bedtime with their father and do one child each, one in their room and one in yours? You could get the three year old to fall asleep in your bed and then transfer them when all kids are soundly asleep.

If the transfer idea doesn't work, could the three year old fall asleep first in their room and then you slip in with the youngest when they're almost asleep - assuming you can stretch their bedtime a little due to the nap?

Divide and conquer was the only thing that worked for us...

[Jarofflies]

Oh god I feel for you op. It's hard enough settling mine and they are in separate rooms.

Both have white noise to try and block the noise from each other. It helps a bit. Might be worth a try?

[Babyboomtastic]

Are you just leaving an in possible screaming baby to cry itself to sleep? And letting the three year old run round?

It's suggest you need a more hands on bedtime, rather than just your routine, switching the light off and going, for your children's sakes if not the neighbours. Stay, cuddle, comfort, and yes it takes ages but that's kind of normal at these ages. I think your are being unrealistic to expect them to go to bed in the way that you have currently organised things -certainly for your youngest. If not a cuddle to sort, then at least since patting and shhing, be and with pain relief for those teeth.

[Spam88]

Sorry if I'm misunderstanding, but it sounds as though you just put them in their beds and then leave them to it for the night? At that age I'd definitely expect to stay with your 1.5 year old until they were asleep, and sounds like your 3 year old would probably benefit from that for a little while as well. I think doing their bedtimes separately is definitely good advice if you can make that work.

[Boringnamechanging]

I had an issue of ds 3 messing about and keeping up younger sibling. Things that helped, putting younger one to bed 30 minutes earlier to make sure they're asleep (no audience made ds behave better) and sticker chart. I was amazed it worked but it did, draw 7 boxes on a piece of paper show sticker explain that to get a sticker you have to go to bed stay in bed and no getting out.

[GemMann84]

Hiya guys thanks for your messages,
I normally stay with them I tuck them in I read them a book, or maybe 4 lol.
I do stay with them but it gets to the point where they go quiet so I leave the room and then 2 minutes later off again lol

I will try to separate them now, it's a very good idea, I will put younger one to bed earlier then I will take up older one later.
Thank you so much everyone xx