My 8yr ds1 is just a bundle of anxiety, a professional worrier. Unfortunately it's in the genes as I was a terribly anxious kid and my exDH is a worrier too so the poor little chap didn't have a chance.
As a young child, professionals suggested he was autistic, his language was poor and he lacked social skills, often withdrawing to be by himself. As time has gone on is seems more likely that he had a speech disorder and severe anxiety.
His speech is still a little disordered at times but it has been a real pleasure to see him blossom and grow in confidence. He copes more than well at school now, goes to cubs, has a great friendship with DS2 and is generally quite a happy, if anxious, child.
However, he still gets upset very, very easily and gets himself worked up in to a state about things. He is quite controlling, it makes him feel safe if he can know whats coming, and comes across as bossy and argumentative within the family and painfully shy with everyone else. He finds making friends quite difficult but this has improved alot in the last year.
Last night he came back from a friends house in a right old state as he had seen a video game with some images that scared him. He worked himself up until he had a headache and was sick and he was still struggling this morning.
I just wish I could help him better. We talk things through and I've got him some books that helped a bit. Someone suggested I should get him some counselling to help him to cope. I can't decide whether to or not?
My exDH used cannabis as his 'coping mechanism' and it eventually screwed him up completely. I just wish I could give DS the tools to manage his anxiety. I just found my own ways of coping with my own anxiety and I have more or less conquered it but it was not until my 30's really.
Any other experiences, opionions, tips or advice very welcome!
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My anxious son - how to help?
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redapple · 18/09/2007 10:54
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