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Baby's 2nd Christmas and ex

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justanothermummy2 · 09/11/2019 02:27

Hey everyone , if your DC wasn't going up to ex's for part of Xmas day or Boxing Day etc for various reasons would you expect him to bring presents down on Christmas Eve or would you suggest him bringing them Christmas morning so he can open them with Your child? ( I know my son is too young to even understand ) but I know ex will make a big deal of not getting to open them with DS when all his family members are present. Even though I've tried to explain that usually it's just mum/dad opening presents with the kids Christmas morning and every one of the family doesn't need to be there to witness this. Last year 14 of his family members were in and it was far too overwhelming for DS

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BB081 · 09/11/2019 12:45

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justanothermummy2 · 09/11/2019 13:59

@BB081 that sounds lovely for the boys and good that you all get on well enough to do that. Your right I just have to do what's best for us. As my son is just a baby I do feel last year was far to much having 14 people in on his dads side. I wouldn't have minded if it was just going to be a 1st Christmas thing ( well I did mind because it was too overwhelming for DS getting passed about constantly , but I would have let it go because it was only 1 year ) but his dad is quite demanding about all his family being there to see him at the one time and it would be the same again this year and he doesn't take into account DS feelings. Only his and his family's ( he doesn't like saying no to them ) so I'm inclined to just say no this year. DS dad can come on Christmas morning if he wants. There will be plenty of time for my son to go to his dads to see everyone else as he gets older.

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BB081 · 09/11/2019 14:04

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justanothermummy2 · 09/11/2019 15:48

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SylvanianFrenemies · 09/11/2019 15:52

Could you take him over to.his Dad/dad's family? That way things might feel a bit less overwhelming.

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elmosducks · 09/11/2019 17:59

No. DC Parents only for Christmas morning. After that, everyone can do their own thing. Too much pressure on one day.

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justanothermummy2 · 09/11/2019 18:32

@SylvanianFrenemies I could do that, however I just feel like last year he was only weeks old at Christmas but this year will be even worse as id be taking DS into a situation where he doesn't know any of his fathers family or have a bond with any of them. They haven't saw him in 7 months ( their choice ) even though they all live locally. But ex feels like they all have a right and entitlement to see him at Christmas. I don't want to watch DS upset in a house full of people he's not familiar with as he has more understanding this year. But it's no doubt just going to cause an argument.