I feel I am making a total mess of parenting DS, (4 weeks today) I have dd7 too. Bear with me as this might be a total ramble.
I feel so guilty because I failed at breastfeeding, I didn't get any sleep at all. I was late for school pick up and drop off as he was taking over an hour to feed. He was screaming. Dd was upset as she didn't get to have any time with me. I went to support group for breastfeeding and was just told its normal but not how to manage now dh is back at work.
Fast forward this week: Ds is 75% formula fed with 25% expressed milk all via bottles. However he seems so much more content.
Last night he didn't sleep however, at all really and I let Dh sleep because he had a big meeting today (he did say why did I not wake him) so today I've done my normal thing: feed, school run dog walk, feed and I've put him to nap whilst i had a nap, ,(normally I sit and cuddle him & maybe do some housework)
Now hes feeding and I need to walk dog and do school run. Then I'll cuddle him, see DD and play with her so I'll have to put him down and then I'll do dinner and DH will come home have both dd and ds so I can shower.
In between all this I need to pump because it's the best I can do for him as i couldn't manage to breastfeed him and failed and my supply is dwindling.
I just feel I'm making a mess of everything. That I'm not spending enough Time with ds and it's unfair on him doing the school run, dog walks and me being selfish napping.
The thing is I don't know how to work it all. I love walking it's great for my mental health, and I had pnd with Dd and as I feel so guilty and sad that I've failed to breastfeed him and therefore need to pump I think I need to walk.
I see other people with say 3/4 children and they manage. I just have no idea how to make this work and be fair for everyone... especially dd and ds.
Does anyone have any advice please?
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I am making a total hash of this :-(
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Alpacamystuff · 22/10/2019 13:55
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