Lying

[Blondieblond]

My DS who is 11 has developed the habit of telling lies all the time. In the past week he has:

Lied about having showers. He goes in there and lets the shower run, but comes out bone dry and still smelling arguing that he has washed.

Lied about eating breakfast. Swears blind that he ate a brand of cereal this morning that we havent bought in weeks and dont have in our cupboards.

Lied to teachers about homework adamant in saying he's lost it so they phone me to complain. When really i sat with him to do it the night before and its right there in his bag.

Lied about how he injury he got at school. Saying that he fell over and no staff came to help him. When really its on school cameras that he tried to hit another child and ending up hitting a pole and two staff came over to attend.

Yesterday we took him to sports and he lied about drinking his water. He thought i wasnt looking but i actually saw him pour it into the bushes!

Im at a loss! Any advice on how to deal with lies?

[Aquamarine1029]

There needs to be consequences and you have to call him out on each and every lie. Don't allow him to think he can sometimes get away with it. Explain to him that when he lies, it makes it impossible for you to trust him, and without trust, his life isn't going to be very enjoyable.

[Blondieblond]

Thanks aqua, as a direct consequence i make sure he apologises to everyone he lied to and tells them the truth (so much so that hes just gotten very good at turning on the water works and saying he'll never lie again). And indirect i confiscate things for the month such as games console, toys, his favourite items, time with friends. But its getting to be a bit of a cycle now and i dont know if my consequences are too light? Its just not hitting home at all. He lied to me just this morning. And now is curled up on the sofa crying saying he's so so sorry (because he got called out)