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Did your baby sleep better when you moved them to their own room?

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WhiskeyJarro Tue 14-May-19 08:24:57

I am planning on moving DD to her own room when she is six months, she is four months old now. The only thing that's making me doubt this decision is that she needs resettling a few times in the night, usually just with a dummy and stroking on the forehead, but now I can reach over and do it from bed.

I'm wondering if it will be more hassle than it's worth having her in another room. On the other hand the noises she makes in her sleep keep me awake. Not sure what to do for the best!

sar302 Tue 14-May-19 09:06:06

We all slept better when he moved out! We moved him at 4 months - which I'm aware is not recommended, and I am not recommending. he used to spend hours in the middle of the night practising his entire vocal range and keeping us awake. He was fine - didn't need us - he was just awake.

We also started to disturb him when we went to bed, which meant pointless resettling. He was formula fed however, and by about 5 months, would just take one bottle in the middle of the night and go back to sleep. He's always been a good sleeper (touching all the wood...)

You may find by 6 months, they require much less input to sleep anyway. You just have to do whatever is best for you.

MummyBear2352 Tue 14-May-19 09:18:09

For me it was more hassle. Woke up the same amount of times but I was having to physically get out of bed! So I moved him back into ours.

He started sleeping through when I moved him back to his room at 16 months. Think he just wasn't ready before x

Blueberrycheesecake1 Tue 14-May-19 10:30:34

Yes he did massively.

MindyStClaire Tue 14-May-19 10:44:39

At 4 months we were up every hour or two. Moved her at 7 months, when things weren't much better. She slept through the first night. 13 months now and unless ill or teething will typically sleep through or be up once briefly.

A game changer in our house.

mindutopia Tue 14-May-19 11:12:34

It completely depends on the child. My eldest one, no, she slept much better with us and we bedshared quite happily til she was 3.5, then she decided on her own that she was happy to sleep all night in her own room and she did. But otherwise she would have been up all night with us running up and down the hall. We both worked and just couldn't be doing that.

Youngest one does sleep better on his own - when he is feeling well. We moved him to his own room at 4 months because we were waking him up at night. At around 8 months, he came back in with us due to teething and sickness and we continued to bedshare until he was 14 months. Then his rolling around at night was just really disruptive. I also night weaned him so it made more sense for him not to be right next to me when he wasn't allowed any milk. He does sleep better now in his own room, but if he's not feeling well. It's hard. But it's still the best solution because I get up early for work and I'd wake him up otherwise. When he's in his own room, he's more likely to stay sleeping and I can get out of the house before anyone else is awake.

bitchfromhell Tue 14-May-19 11:17:13

Watching with interest. Ds is also 4 months and I think we disturb him. He also resettles easily, but occasionally needs a nappy change.
Those that moved them, what did you do regarding the monitor?

happymummy12345 Tue 14-May-19 11:20:00

I didn't want to move my son at all. So he was in with us until he was 16 months. I only moved him then because we wanted to put him in a toddler bed, but we wanted him to get used to being in his own room first.
Also by that time he had started waking up when we went to bed. So we knew it was time. But I hated it

Lazypuppy Tue 14-May-19 11:41:02

100% we moved dd into her own room at 3 months as we were dusturbing her when we came to bed.

She likes it silent and pitch black for night time.

By 3 months she was only waking twice in the night and only ever fed for 10mins so easy to get up and feed her then put her back to sleep within 15mins

Lazypuppy Tue 14-May-19 11:42:07

@bitchfromhell what do you mean regarding the monitor?

We have always used a monitor so i can see her in her cot in her room if thats what you mean

WitsEnding Tue 14-May-19 11:45:13

Another 100% here. We moved house when DS was 10 months old which meant he could move out of our room into his own adjoining bedroom. He instantly went from waking up every 4 hours to sleeping through almost every night.

MustardScreams Tue 14-May-19 11:46:01

No, dd got a lot worse before she got better. Took about 6 months of 10+ wake ya and slowly dwindled. She now sleeps through thank goodness, but she’s 2.5

bitchfromhell Tue 14-May-19 12:09:40

@Lazypuppy yes that's what I mean. I guess it's a daft question really but I wondered if everyone uses a monitor all night? We definitely plan to and he'll be in the room right next door but I wondered if everyone feels the need for a monitor or if they can hear them easily and wake without one?

When we were kids our parents didn't have monitors and we were never allowed in their rooms. I have a feeling we were left to cry quite a lot. God bless the 80's.

Everybodywantstobeacat123 Tue 14-May-19 12:16:15

DS was very unsettled for the first few nights but recently he's been sleeping through. We had to do it because we was desturbing him when he was in with me and DP. He was 8 months when he went I to his own room.

sar302 Tue 14-May-19 12:19:44

@bitchfromhell We had the monitor on overnight from 4-6 months, and after he started sleeping through at 6 months, we turned it off. By that point we could hear him if he cried, but didn't need to listen to every little sniffle or sleep shout!

I should say that my understanding is that monitors don't help with SIDS, as the idea is that being in the room with you helps them regulate breathing etc. Which a monitor doesn't give you.

QueenAnneBoleyn Tue 14-May-19 12:22:46

DD slept with us til she was 8 months but we all slept better when she moved to her room.
DH’s snoring would wake her and then she’d wake us up.

ItsAllGone19 Tue 14-May-19 12:34:36

My eldest struggled...still does actually.

She doesn't sleep well to silence so my husband doing his best chainsaw impression actually helped her sleep. Now she sleeps best to white noise, current device of choice is the dehumidifier.

My youngest slept a lot better in her own room. Silence suits her.

Both were around 6 months old leaving our room because they'd outgrown the crib and our room isn't big enough for a cot.

Lazypuppy Tue 14-May-19 13:05:09

@bitchfromhell i have my camera on but silent, just means i can look at her without going into the room and disturbing her.

Rosebud1302 Tue 14-May-19 15:24:21

Game changer here when we moved him. He went from waking every hour and a half to sleeping 12 hours with one brief waking for food. He loves his own space and we were disturbing him when we came to bed or moved. And it is amazing not having to creep around and actually be able to chat to partner in bed!!!!

Rosebud1302 Tue 14-May-19 15:25:25

I do the same as @Lazypuppy regarding having camera on but no sound. I like to look at him if I can't sleep in the middle of the night just because he is so damn cute 😃

HollyGoLoudly1 Wed 15-May-19 12:23:59

Huge improvement for us! Moved him at 6 months, first couple of nights weren't great but after that his sleep improved massively. Took me a while to start sleeping better though as I think I was too used to being up 6+ times a night. Wish I'd done it sooner!

Happyspud Wed 15-May-19 12:26:42

Yes. All 4 babies went from 3-8 wakes a night in with us to zero wakes at night within 2 nights of being in their own room. All babies were very different (and still are) sleepers but it seemed universal the need for peace and quiet from about 6 months.

converseandjeans Wed 15-May-19 12:27:31

Both mine were in own room from about a week old. Black out blinds and quiet & they both slept really well. We used a monitor.
I know advice is to have them with you for 6 months so understand you may not want to move them.

steppemum Wed 15-May-19 12:55:36

I found that all of mine went through a developmental change at around 6 months. Before that they slept through anything, bedside light on, talking, moving round etc. At around 6 months they started to be disturbed more by us in the room, so when we came to bed, they tossed and turned/woke up.

That seemed to me to be a signal that it was time for their own room, and it worked.

PerfectPeony2 Wed 15-May-19 12:57:14

DD had to go into her own room early because she outgrew the snuzpod

But nope, she didn’t sleep much better and basically ended up in with me until about 9 months. She seems to only just be coming through her sleep issues now (fingers crossed).

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