NC for this as I am ashamed of myself but need to ask for help.
DS is absolute fucking donkey work. He’s sometimes sweet and kind and thoughtful in anstonishing ways, but good god I am so exhausted and demoralized by him. Every night it’s a battle, from dinner until he finally passes out in bed. Most nights he plays silly buggers getting mummy or daddy out of bed in the middle of the night “hungry” or “need hug” and I get that he’s 2.5 but we both work full time just to survive and we live in terror of being evicted (I know, the law would support us, but we do not have the money to put up a fight.) Mornings are one long struggle, from the instant we get up (he’s always the first one up).
I thought I would be happier. I thought I could do this. I thought, secretly, I might even be good at it. But nothing has been easy, from his birth to BFing to every single night and I’m just so tired and angry all the time. I feel like I’m letting myself down, and I’m letting him down, too. I didn’t want to be this kind of mummy.
Please tell me it gets better soon.
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downinthemouth · 15/07/2018 03:17
Hang on in there!
It gets easier, honestly it does.
2-3 is a really hard time. It feels like a slog but honestly you’ll get through it.
My twins are 10 yo now and I look back to when they were two and genuinely wonder how I survived it.
But they are lovely now. They are incredibly well behaved. They are regularly complimented on their manners. They make friends everywhere they go and do well in school. They get on really well and are good friends.
They are easy and funny and they make me so proud. Other parents regularly tell me how lucky I am.
But when they were 2.5 they were non stop whirling Tasmanian Devils (think Warner Bros cartoon) who could destroy a room in about 30 seconds, would remove each other’s clothes and nappies, pull over furniture, help each other climb over stair gates and cheerfully but viciously bite each other black and blue. And they never bloody slept.
But we got through it. And it was worth it. And you will too.
And you are a good parent and he will make you happier. You just have to hang on a bit longer.
And I know that right now 6 months feels like forever. I remember that well.
But it isn’t forever.
Standing firm in the daily battles you have now will stand you in good stead later.
That fact that he’s hard work now doesn’t mean he’ll be hard work forever.
One day you too may smile, grit your teeth and try not to throw something at the people who tell you that you are “lucky” to have such an “easy” child. 
You’re just tired. It’s normal.
It’s really awful, but it’s normal.
Hang on in there, the sun will come up soon.
Happyandshiney your comment has cheered me right up - thank you! My twins are 2y 4m and I am exhausted and frazzled and slightly despairing just like the OP. You are giving me hope.
And, OP, sisterly fistbump to you! 
Happy is of course right - I also have a nearly 5yo and I remember how 3-4 felt SO much easier than 2-3. Hang in there. 💪🏼
Ordinary three under 5yo? You deserve some 
and probably a medal.
My twins are at that age too and it is relentless! I was thinking the other day that I'm a few years this horror I'm living will be a distant memory and I will look back on it and laugh. I bloody hope I'm right 
Downinthemouth, on a totally practical level, when you renew your contents insurance, if you have it, tick the family legal cover box at the bottom. It covers you for rent disputes & costs about £15.
It would take away the worry about being evicted which you really don’t need.
FWIW, my ds is 9 now and is lovely, but he was horrendous between 18 months & about 3. Hang in there
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