Feel like a bad mum

[Namechangemum100]

I'm feeling a little bruised and wondered if anything be out there had some words of guidance.

I have a 17 month old dd and a 3 month old. DS. At home, 17 month old is very much a mummy's girl, always calls for me, is like me little shadow. Today we went out with some friends who dd knows very well. Whilst out she tripped over and my friend was standing closer to her so picked her up and passed her to me. She cried in my arms for a moment but then reached back and wanted to be held by my friend. She buried her face into her shoulder and stayed there quietly for a long time. When I motioned to my friend to pass her back(as I felt guilty on my friend that she was having to hold her when she had her own child there) dd didn't want to come to me and wanted to stay with her. I took her anyway and she didn't calm down, but it has left me feeling embarrassed and insecure. I feel like my friend is going to think dd is not getting what she needs from me and just feel a little upset by it.

Should this upset me? I don't know how to feel about it. I adore my daughter, and since ds has changed me along I have been very mindful to give her lots of attention and I don't feel as though I am neglecting her in that sense, especially as ds is a very easy baby so if anything dd gets far more of my time.

Please someone give me your thoughts.

[Namechangemum100]

She did calm down that should say

[Ratbagratty]

I went on play date with my 2yo and 4 month old. Toddler fell over and went straight to playdates' dad. Whilst I felt a bit hurt she didn't come to me I thought to myself, isn't she lucky to have someone else that will help her when she is down. Try and see it from that point of view too. Your doing great it is so tough with 2 so young.

[Namechangemum100]

Thank you, I suppose it could maybe be a sign that she is secure? That's what dh says but I m not convinced