Alone Time - advice please

[BoyMeetsWorld]

Hi just looking for advice and shared experiences.

DS (9) is quite introverted and very focussed on having 'Alone time' in his room with books and toys. To the point that he becomes quite aggressive if he doesn't get This, is interrupted (doesn't like anyone even speaking to him when he's in alone time mode) and has a few times shut his little brothers arm in the door when he's tried to get in his room to speak to him.

His Dad (not my DH) has suggested he be allocated a set half hour per day for Alone Time and the rest is told that it is expected he will socialise nicely and without attitude.

I think this could potentially work. However, throughout the week we only see the kids 6pm-7.30pm when they go to bed as they are at after school club until then (Not together). Younger DS is excited to see his brother when we pick up but he doesn't want anything to do with him, just wants to be alone.

In that 1.5 hour period, we also have to do dinner and bedtime routine. So not sure where 30 min Alone Time would fit in.

He's also struggling with isolating himself in school...but then coming home upset that he's been alone all break despite the fact it seems he's chosen to be so.

Would welcome any thoughts.

[CaptainKirkssparetupee]

Yes, Let him have some time alone.

[Aprilmightbemynewname]

Could he have a bath with a book while you sort other dc out at bedtime?

[3boysandabump]

Couldn't he have his alone time after his brother is in bed?

[AliMonkey]

7.30 quite an early bed time for a 9 year old? So how about he has half an hour alone time while you get younger DC ready for bed then gets to spend 7.30 to 8 with you?