First time posting and I really don't know where to begin I have a 8 year old dd and a 6 month old dd my youngest is teething so constantly grumpy but that's another story lol I'm no longer with dd1s dad haven't been for about 7 years and on Friday he picked her up from school and took her to the park I made use of the time by fitting in a bit of exercise (a bit too much) when he dropped her home he said that she feels like she doesn't get time with me without my youngest which isn't entirely true but he carried on to say heed told her I will try n take her park over the weekend (just make plans for me yanooo as you do 😡) but anyway I said we will try and go park weather depending but the next morning I woke up barely able to walk around the house overdid the exercise
So I said will see how I'm feeling tomorrow but you can play on the green as long as other children are there too (we live on a cul-de-sac and I've only recently felt comfortable letting her play out of the garden) the next day came and if anything I felt worse walking round the house like a penguin so I said well go as soon as my legs are better. With that she storms into her room and messages her dad on her Xbox saying mum's not taking me park now and he messages back its OK don't worry I'll pick u up after school and take you. Now to me that didn't sit well so I msged him saying I don't want her going to the park tomoz as she's had quite an attitude with me as it was that day I said I'm going to take her after school in the week if she behaves
Tbh I don't really know how to explain the situation so I don't sound like an idiot her dad has her two nights every two weeks and let's her stay up late so when she comes home she struggles to go to bed at an appropriate time for a Sunday night he let's her eat what ever she wants if she wants sausage rolls and cheese strings for tea that's what she gets he takes her out every weekend to Costa, milkshake bars ect and while it is nice for her it gives her the assumption that she doesn't have to work for anything and that normal life is going out all the time like parents have unlimited money and time obv I'm on maternity leave atm dp works a lot so I basically live like a single mum my dd2 is teething and won't be entertained by anything longer than 2-3 mins my days go in a blur of housework bottles nappies sterilising sorting food for both kids doing shopping on foot and god knows what else dd is very extroverted and has a stinking attitude she'll say little things that incinuate how much fun she has with her dad and how boring I am but it's always in sneaky little ways where I'd look rediculous to point it out I no it sounds mad but if people could be a fly on the wall they would see she can be very calculated and manipulative she sais and does things to get the responses she wants surely this isn't normal for an 8 year old also she's very good at putting on the poor me act when other people are around e.g other parents if one mentions a day trip there planning she will say something like my mum hasn't taken me anywhere in ages or my mum never foes fun things with me it's humiliating and frustrating I mite not do as much as her dad but he's a single bloke and only has her once a fortnight I'm a mum of two with a house to run and really it's untrue we went shopping for clothes last weekend for the holiday (I've booked a holiday for this summer) I do her hair paint her nails we do drawings together but nothing I ever do is good enough compared to her dad litteraly the sun shines out his ass will I've spent countless nights crying because I feel like a failure yet at the same time I can't help feeling like him spoiling her rotten is just to highlight how much better he is he treats her like he's a friend rather than he's a parent litteraly let's her do what she wants doesn't really disapline her I'm at my wits end any advice would be appreciated thanks in advance xxxx p. S sorry if this post is rambley trying to do it b4 dd2 wakes up xx
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helenkaysmummy · 23/04/2018 08:52
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