The above really. DS is 2 years and 2 months old and last month we found out I was pregnant. DH has been wanting to try for number 2 for about the last year but I just kept saying I wasn't ready. I couldn't imagine the idea of welcoming another baby when DS was still crawling around in nappies.
We started trying in Jan and got pregnant first time (!) - shock all round and I was feeling quite ambivalent about the pregnancy (not ready, guilt about DS etc) but sadly it was not meant to be and I had a mmc last week. I've now gone from not being ready for another baby to being desperate to be pregnant and absolutely beating myself up for not trying sooner. Why have I waited so long?!! I'm 38, I'll be 39 at the end of this year, I've totally not factored in the age thing, there'll be a minimum 3 year age gap between DS and second baby and that's if I get pregnant straight away, I'm grieving so badly - if we'd have just started trying a year ago I wouldn't have any of these worries.
I look at DS now and, unlike last year when I couldn't picture it, I now think he'd love a sibling along side him and this isn't going to happen anytime soon.
Just feeling so despondent and sad and regretful.
Can anyone help me with feeling better about this? I'm ok about the miscarriage - I'm philosophical about it, it was very early and obviously wasn't meant to be. I'm just sad about where this leaves me with time ever ticking, I'm getting older, the age gap is getting bigger and I'm in a right old mess.
Please help me see that it's not all bad!
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Miscarriage, too big an age gap, I'm feeling old, wishing I'd started sooner
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Whenisittimeforwine · 23/03/2018 12:45
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