Constant lying / Inability to recognise the truth / ASD link?

[paranoidpammywhammy2]

Both in my family and my ex's family are people who have selective memories and constantly lie.

I've tried to raise my child to be honest. Honesty is very important to me. My daughter has ASD but I think very mildly.

I've been reading current threads about lying and trying to find out what to do about my daughter's lying. She doesn't seem to realise she's doing it sometimes, can get very upset when pulled up on it and insistent she's being truthful.

The things she lies about are silly and she has no reason for it. Is it connected to the ASD? I sometimes think she has PDA as pathological demand avoidance seems to fit more.

The lying is really getting to me. I can't trust anything she says anymore. Is she going to grow out of it? Can anyone suggest ways of dealing with it?

[PotatoesOfTheCarribean]

How old is she?

Mine was like this at 7-9yo, only just coming out of it a bit now, but still lies, just less often. I suspect ASD (awaiting testing) so interested in responses.

[paranoidpammywhammy2]

She's 9.

I've been told to try and find out why she's lying but she doesn't seem to know herself.