Just after opinions really.
DS is 5mo & I'm currently on maternity leave. Days are spent obviously caring for baby, visiting friends & family or having people round, going to baby groups, running general errands like shopping, or just playing at home.
I try to do as much housework as I can, I always make sure the main tasks like washing up are done daily & in general the house is clean & relatively tidy. But it's a really small house, so literally the minute I get something out for baby to play with it looks like a tip. It's very cluttered with baby things, but this doesn't bother me as it's just part & parcel of having a baby.
Laundry is a problem, there's mounds of it & I can never seem to get through it quick enough, especially with the weather being bad, but I do my best & we all always have clean clothes to wear.
On the whole I don't think things are too bad, I do what I can through the day but mostly do chores after baby is in bed. It's fine.
But DH always seems annoyed at the state of the house, he thinks it's a tip, stuff everywhere etc etc & he complains like mad about it. He does help out around the house (though I have to ask him to) but I do the main bulk of chores - I'm ok with this as I'm not working & he is. But his attitude annoys me, I feel like if he has to lift a finger he's annoyed that he's had to do so, like it bugs him that I've not done it myself.
I get the impression he thinks I have bags of time throughout the day to get stuff done.
When I call him out on it he denies he expects me to get everything done myself & that he's just frustrated it's always such a mess.
Maybe I'm being sensitive & putting pressure on myself but assuming it's coming from DH? Does it sound like I'm doing enough, or could I be putting in a bit more effort? Is he justified in feeling like whilst I'm at home every day I should be on top of things?
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SureJan · 17/12/2017 15:24
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