I hate being a mum!

[Katjones85]

Hello everyone,
I've got a 5 year old and a 2 year old and I literally feel like I want to run away! 2 year old is currently screaming her head off because she wants her mummy!!! I can't face getting up for the 10th time..i feel like I want to get in the car and drive as far away as possible. I got home from work at 11..been asleep for an hour and up ever since. I'll be up in a few hours to start it all over again...
I feel like I could cry all the time, even when I have a break from the kids I'm not happy because the feeling of dread being back with them takes over!
Maybe it's just a phase everything seems hard work with them...they argue all the time, everything is a battle and they are never happy. Wish I could rewind 5 years and seriously 're think having kids!! It can't be normal???

[MissBax]

Oh op, that sounds really tough. I am currently on maternity leave so the night wakes and lack of sleep is doable, but I can't imagine how hard it must be doing all that whilst working. Have you got a partner? Is he/she there to pull their weight too? Have you got any options regarding reducing hours at work or anything?
I'm sure it is just a difficult phase for you but please seek.help regarding stress/anxiety. Could you get signed off work for a bit?

[Katjones85]

Hi ya, I just got married last month
...hes snoring away while all this is.going on!! I tell him how I feel all time...but I think it just goes over his head! I'm not sure he realises how much I mean it when I say I'm not enjoying this at all!!
I only work 16 hours a week, 3 evening's a week so it's not too bad..to be honest as much as I find it hard work I enjoy getting away from them!!
She's finally gone to sleep...thank God. But other half alarm is going to be off in 2 hours!!
Thanks for replying xxxx

[dontpokethebear]

I feel ya. My dd (2.10) doesn't sleep more than 3 hours at a time, and quite frankly is a horror in the day. My husband snores ALL NIGHT and I work 2 nights a week. All those combined to me make me very unhappy.

My 2 ds are at lovely ages at the moment. Possibly the only things keeping me sane.

[Want2bSupermum]

You have sleep deprivation and it's torture. It makes everything feel so much worse. Can you afford a sleep consultant? Personally what I did was poke DH until he got out of bed and dealt with crying child. Now he gets up most of the time.

[ahhhsalmonskinroll]

What does your dh do to look after his children?

[Blackcatonthesofa]

I love kids.,, there's an exception for 2 year olds though. They should be sent to a farm far away and not come back till they're 3 and normal kids again (light-hearted!).

It's the age. Seriously, it will get better. Try to be a good mum, don't try to be the best mum and take care of yourself as well.

Disclaimer: I dont have my own kids but do have them very close by and have had care duties in the past.

[Katjones85]

Morning everyone!
Well we made it on time...we are slept in and literally had half an hour yo get ready for school run! What a night!!! I had to wake little one to get to school on time... Not surprising as she was up for hours!!!
She's always been a good sleeper but lately been terrible.
That's just part of the problem tho...i just feel like I'm miserable all the time and really not enjoying patent hood...does anyone really enjoy it??
How can they?! Unless my kids are abnormal...they are never happy! I try and do fun things all the time but they just end up grumpy and unhappy.
As I said I'm sure it's just a phase, darker cold days are prob not helping.
Does anyone else feel like they try and try but just get nothing back? Or is this normal??
My other half works alot...so doesn't really do much round the house in the week...at weekends he might do a bit of washing up! That's gets my down too anyd every now and then we have a massive argument about how he needs to do more.. yet to see that change.
I often think this can't be normal and maybe I need to see a doctor...but maybe it is!! Who knows xxxx

[Katjones85]

Haha I love this...totally agree!!! She's really mean!!x

[AnaWinter]

We had this stage when our youngest was 2. She only wanted me. Eventually I just let her sleep in my bed and DH slept in the guest room. It stopped the screaming and we all got a good night sleep. She moved back into her own room when she was about 3. Everything is better when you all sleep.

[sproutsmum]

I co-slept with one of mine for a while , no-one is there to judge you at 3am , so if it works for you and it means you get some rest it might be worth a try.
My eldest had an overwhelming day yesterday , he popped in for a wee ( en suite up stairs bathroom ) and just needed some comfort and a cuddle-I don’t blame him ,when it’s been full on I need a cuddle too.
He fell asleep , it was a sweet moment so I let him stay. He slept like a log , so did I , everyone got up for school ok , no drama.
He is nearly eleven.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

Well as the famous MN saying goes, you dont have a child problem, you have a DH problem.

Kids will do stuff like this from time to time, often it can be related to growth spurts, startng new school/nursery and it settles down after a while.

But snoring away while you get more and more stressed, not doing anything with the kids or in the house is not acceptable. Did he live alone before living with you or (just a hunch) did he live with his mother who did everything and is now expecting you to do the same?

Tell him tonight that as he refuses to pull his weight you dont have time to do his washing so he will have to do his own from now on. And that 2 days a month he will be in sole charge of the kids as you will be out of the house in exchange for all the nights he leaves you to it with a screaming toddler. And do it, tomorrow go out for a few hours for some peace and let him see what you have to cope with.