Dd is 3.5, ds 2 months. Dd is doing well with ds but her behaviour towards me has deteriorated. She never listens and getting her to do anything takes so much cajoling and persuasion. It's exhausting!
I realise that her bad behaviour is often linked to her brother so I try to be lenient but I'm not sure if I am too lenient? As then i'll snap. DH says he's noticed that dd never listens to me and I need to be stricter.
So tonight I tried to be stricter but now I just feel guilty. Dd was eating her dinner and asked for more. So I gave her more. Cue her saying the dinner was horrible and pushing her plate away. I have her theee warnings to eat or straight to bed and she kept messing around or answering back. She shouted 'my answer is NO' for example - something I would say to her when she is nagging. And when I stood up from the table to jiggle the baby she said 'sit down at the table NOW'. All while pushing her plate around.
So I follwed through, removed her (now wailing saying she was so hungry) from the table, marched her upstairs and and got her ready for bed. She was crying saying she was hungry (which I don't believe as she'd actually eaten a lot more than she normally does, think she was just outraged not to have had her pudding).
So many tears though so I just wonder what I'm doing wrong. Was I too hard on her after being too easy? We get these situations all the time. But she's never like it with DH. I know it comes from jealousy over her baby brother so I don't want to be too hard but I want her to learn too, she can't do exactly as she pleases all day long. She doesn't seem to respect me.
Feeling guilty now though. Any advice?
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ninnynono · 17/10/2017 19:07
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