I've posted here before and received so much support and advice, for which I'm very grateful.
In summary, this year has been tough. DH and I had a sickly newborn and DS was in hospital for about 4 weeks after the birth. The dog died. DH shut down his business and is currently suffering from mild depression. Finances have been tight due to the closing down of the business and we had some legal issues to resolve related to the business.
DS is now 9 months old and I'm 23 weeks with our second. annoyingly can't really afford a second now but I conceived before the business was shut down
Despite all the shit we've had to deal with, I like to think that generally I'm pretty upbeat. I've been tired and fed up lately but am quite chilled out with DS and am lucky enough to have found my swing with our little routine.
My massive struggle at the moment is that I'm really finding it hard to settle into any friendships. I know a lot of mums now and have put lots of work into building relationships with people but I think where I have so much on my plate I'm really struggling to deal with the dramas and anxieties that so many people seem to have around looking after their babies.
I guess in the analogy, my cup is empty. I make all the right noises when anyone is struggling, etc, but am just generally fucked off with it.
I feel like a bitch that I dont want to give any more but I also really don't want to be alone. I'm already feeling pretty lonely where DH has been emotionally absent due to the depression.
I know I'm the one with the problem - I'm now currently distancing myself from the third group of mums I've integrated with and am beginning to feel like people aren't that willing to meet up with me anyway. But then I'm not sure if that's in my head.
I really don't know how to fix this. I just need my own little space with a few friends away from coffee shops. Friends who aren't too scared to take their babies swimming and aren't still panicking about feeding their babies finger foods at older than nine months. I'm not being horrible to my friends, I just literally can't deal with the anxiety of others any more. I have no idea how to manage this.
I'm seeing my midwife on Weds and will have a chat to her. I should be seeing my therapist but currently finances are only stretching so far and DH needs priority for paying for therapy at the moment.
I'm just so stuck my last thread lots said I was likely suffering from pnd. This is probably true but I'm managing okish on the whole
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Prusik · 09/10/2017 13:59
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