I have from a very young age always needed a bit of space when I've spent a lot of time with people or been out for the day.
Since having children I have tried not to be like that but I can't change. The kids are 8 and 13 so not babies. Unfortunately my eldest,in particular, is the opposite from me and craves activity, stimulation and company everyday. If she doesn't get it, she's like a caged animal. Youngest is happiest to potter, usually, like me. So, we have done something virtually every day and , at week 4, I have lost the plot.
Today we were at a friends and got home about 4:30 we left the house at about 10:45 so when I pulled up to the drive I said we wouldn't be doing anything I just wanted to sit down and chill out as soon as we got in. I was already tired from a late shift I'd done the evening before. My daughter was demanding her cousin came round to dinner. I told her several times I did not want to start cooking for someone else and going through my cupboards and freezer. In the end I relented and let her phone her. Luckily she couldn't come and she went there. Then my son wanted to purchase some in app money for his computer game which I had already said no to. He went on for 3 hours. Yes 3 hours then finally ended up twisting it,saying he never gets my attention. I reminded him that he had my attention which hed forced in me for 3 hours and it was his choice to spend it whining at me. I had offered to watch a movie with him but he didn't want to. He wanted to help him on the computer game but i was too tired and in then wrong frame of mind.
I started with first begging him to give me some space which i had requested very clearly 3 hours previously and then screaming at him to leave me alone. Eventually he did and agreed to the movie.
If both had have given me the space at 4.30, id have felt refreshed enough to perhaps do what they wanted.
I frequently find myself trying to grab a bit of space for myself and all the calming techniques i have to hand such as music, tv, reading or puzzles are interrupted by them.
What do I do?
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How do you cope when your children do not give you any space at all?
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Zippydoodah · 23/08/2017 21:07
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