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Is it normal to feel bored?!.....

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amw016 Wed 21-Jun-17 13:21:20

I'm very lucky to be a sahm mum to my 2.5yo and 7 mo boys but I'm sooooooo bored!! After 2.5 yrs of doing the playgroups, parks etc etc I'm done!! Feeling like this is affecting my tolerance of the boys, a "challenging" toddler and incredibly needy baby add to my frustration as they just need so much from me.
I'm fully aware I sound ungrateful and moany but can I get some reassurance that others feel the same and that I'm not perhaps suffering with a bit of post natal? xx

Timetogrowup2016 Wed 21-Jun-17 13:25:25

16 month old dd here .

Yes I'm bored of the park . Soft play .toddler groups etc

2014newme Wed 21-Jun-17 13:30:05

I never know why people say they are very lucky to be a sahm. I did 15 months maternity leave that was enough, it was groundhog day.
I consider myself lucky to have a,well paid oart time flexible job. Being g a sahm in my eyes is not lucky! It's a lot of drudgery!

NuffSaidSam Wed 21-Jun-17 13:33:18

I think it's normal for some people, yes.

Has it been a slow build-up or a crushing onset after the birth of DC2? If all was well before and you're feeling down since his birth then could be PND.

Probably just good old boredom though! Time to go back to work maybe?

reetgood Wed 21-Jun-17 13:34:35

Yeah my mum recollected how she needed to find adult company and something that wasn't being a mum when we were little. Similar ages to yours I think when she started to get really twitchy! There are a hundred ways of being a mum, you don't have to sahm and even that there's many ways to stay at home. I'm currently pregnant and we'll see but I have a suspicion that I'm not going to be staying home.

2014newme Wed 21-Jun-17 13:38:47

The extra money is great for holidays, days out etc we go away a lot and again tge change of scene is good if you are a sahm

RoseVase2010 Wed 21-Jun-17 13:42:21

In this weather it's great!

Ask me the same question in February when we're knee deep in mud and it hasn't stopped raining for three weeks :D

amw016 Wed 21-Jun-17 13:42:33

I do feel lucky because many people have no choice but to go back to work, this is my choice and I want to be available for my children 24 7 whilst they're so little but I also want to be the best mum I can be which I don't feel that I am right now cos the boredom is making me unmotivated and snappy!
Hopefully as the littlest gets older and more independent I'll feel less suffocated and more enthusiastic?! Wishful thinking maybe?
Thanks for the reassurance tho ladies 😘

FemaleDilbert Wed 21-Jun-17 13:47:21

Oh god if I have to wind the bobbin up or be a dingle dangle scarecrow one more time I'm going to go bananas grin

2014newme Wed 21-Jun-17 13:47:52

I think the more years you spend as a sahm the duller it gets and the further away you get from doing something that you personally find mentally stimulating or fulfilling. What's your long term plan?

reetgood Wed 21-Jun-17 14:01:10

You're allowed to change your mind too. Is a bored mother really there 24/7?

Heatherbell1978 Wed 21-Jun-17 17:07:25

I'm on my second maternity leave and although not ready to return to work (DD is 4 months) I'm already quietly daydreaming about peace, solitude, coffees at my desk, not wearing my shit clothes.....I love spending time with my DS (2.9) and DD but find a lot of activities immensely boring and am definitely not cut out to be a SAHM. In fact I think it would be detrimental to them if I was. DS loves his nursery and learns far more there than he would with me at home. Might be worth thinking about whether being a SAHM is for you.

allthegoodnamesalreadytaken Wed 21-Jun-17 22:34:58

My SD is 11 months and I'm v v v bored. Counting down the days until maternity leave ends. Love her to bits but the groundhog day thing is killing me

ShiftyLookingBadger Sat 24-Jun-17 21:45:04

I'm on my 2nd maternity leave, my DS is only 6 weeks and I'm already bored! My DD is almost 2yrs and a handful. I'm trying to avoid baby groups this time round but I think my mum will guilt me into going to a few!

lucyanne2308 Sat 24-Jun-17 22:41:39

I feel the same and I can say with certainty I dont have postnatal depression. Some days it's easier to be at work. You don't have to deal with mess and poo and tantrums. You don't have to sing the wheels on the bus 20 times a day. You can drink all of your coffee before it's gone cold and you can pee alone without anybody raising an objection in you doing so. I love my kids but spending every day and night with them, without a break, is hard! Sometimes I just prefer being at work! Saying that, when I'm at work I look forward to picking my kids up from nursery. I think it's just a normal feeling most mums have!

Ohyesiam Sat 24-Jun-17 22:52:39

I hate play parks. Two kids and I was so done with swings and slides, of walk into one and I'd fell the depression of 10 000 women descend on me.
God knows how people do more than two in a row.
So I ended up doing lots more picnics, walking in the woods, hanging it with people I liked , by the time the second came along.

NaomiCole Sun 25-Jun-17 01:16:45

I really know where you're at - it's mind numbing! But after losing my 4th at 14 weeks, I'd do anything to be in your position. Hang in there. Grab the joy where you can get it and snuggle those babies while they're tiny still. (And when they've gone to bed.... wine!) :-) xxxx

amw016 Sun 25-Jun-17 09:46:28

Oh I'm so sorry you're absolutely right, I am and I just need to remind myself when it gets a bit much.
Huge hugs to you xxxx

WheresYouWheelieBin Sun 25-Jun-17 10:25:30

I stayed at home with my three boys for 10 years. I enjoyed that time but I did keep busy by volunteering, initially with a local community organisation and then at my boys' school. I think staying at home would have been a very different prospect if it wasn't for my volunteer work. My youngest started kindergarten this year so I've recently gone back to work 3 days a week and although DH and the kids complain about it, I love it.

TheKitchenWitch Mon 26-Jun-17 13:17:04

I actually cannot imagine how it could possibly be boring. Stressful or difficult, I understand. But boredom is something you absolutely have control over. I don't get the Groundhog Day analogy at all, you get to choose what you do every single day. Choose stuff that isn't boring.

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