In January my 4 year daughters dad* saw her off to school as normal, but when she came home he'd moved out. She's seen him once since (only because she was worried he was dead) but won't be seeing him again. She's obviously finding it really hard to deal with.
She's always been fine with separation. I would put her to bed, shut the door, and not hear a peep until morning. She would get dressed and go into school perfectly happy. She was fine doing things alone...
Now she's sleeping in my bed, clinging to me after her story, begging me not to leave. She cries whenever school is mentioned, she sobs all the way there, crying hysterically to stay with me - to the point her teacher needs to pull her off me in the morning. She continues to cry throughout the day and children are starting to call her a "cry baby".
She cries leaving me to go into her dance class and comes out multiple times to see me and is on my knee, wrapped around me, whenever she can. She obsessively tells me she loves me, hundreds of times a day. She's super clingy, she wants to be with me all the time...
She's like an entirely different person.
Full personality transplant.
She's totally traumatised.
I think she just doesn't want to leave my side incase I disappear too.
Has anyone been through similar? I don't know what to do.
(*He's not her biological father but he raised her as his own and lived with us for all her living memory. Although she knows he's not her real dad, she obviously doesn't really understand that and so all her "dad love" is with him. She thinks of all his family members as hers e.g. his sister as her "aunty" etc. And hasn't even realised yet that she won't be seeing them again either)
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4yo traumatised by dad suddenly leaving.
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MoominMama89 · 25/04/2017 22:30
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