New user. Not sure if this is the right place to ask this.
My daughter's getting to the age where I want to start talking about body privacy. We already teach her that she can say no to hugs and kisses, and that it is up to her who touches her body, but I now want to expand to discussions about keeping private parts private.
BUT I can't work out how.
The message I want to give her is that her private parts are just for her to see, and that some other trusted adults may need to see them on occasion (that we as her parents still need to help her with washing, and that she may need to trust a doctor or similar).
The problem is, that can't be true. More and more places seem to be alright with communal nudity. A lot of the swimming pools around here, for example, have communal (single sex, of course) changing rooms where everyone dresses and undresses together. This has always made me feel very uncomfortable, but is increasingly becoming the norm, and I don't want my message to make her feel as uncomfortable about that as I do.
Then, there's school. We frequently go to a pool that does have individual changing rooms but also has larger rooms for groups. These are in full view of passers-by, often with the door open, and all of the children (early primary school age) are in the rooms naked together whilst getting changed before and after their swimming lessons. This includes the school that I am hoping to get her into.
If I give her the message that her private parts are only for her and a few other trusted adults to see in situations where it's necessary, and that she should not be naked in public, what happens when she gets to school and is expected to strip naked and change in front of all her classmates?
None of it sits well with me, but the fact is that it happens and I don't want to give her the wrong message that'll lead to confusion in a couple of years. Would like to hear your thoughts.
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user1487085151 · 14/02/2017 15:22
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