I'm struggling to think of a good title for this issue I have.
I split up from my ex a few years ago and now live a 3 minute walk away in a flat whilst he stayed in the family home. We have a 4 year old daughter who spends a few days at mine, then a few days at his etc. When either one of us is working it's a more routine arrangement.
I love my daughter very much and I'm very proud of her, but I always look forward to the time when she goes back to her father. In my head I'm free from responsibility and can lie around doing whatever I want at whatever time of day. The reality is that once she's gone to her Dad's my flat feels empty and cold and lifeless and I miss her terribly.
When it's time to have her back I seem to stuff all the things I should have done into a couple of hours before her arrival and the whole time I feel ominous and down like 'oh god I have to put her first again'
I feel incredibly guilty about this. I'm lucky to have her, and I'm lucky to get free time too, so I don't understand this process of emotions I go through all the time.
I'd like to know that I'm not the only one who gets up and down like this, and feels massively guilty about it?
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The Handover Guilt
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Boomerwang · 20/01/2017 09:03
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