DD is generally a happy kid and tends to come across as bright.
She had a mixed report at the end of term and her teachers advised that she really needs to read and write every day - perhaps keeping a holiday diary - which we did stick to for a week before DD managed to break her collarbone which meant she couldn't write, learn to swim, learn to ride a bike or any of the other grand plans I had for this summer! (It's fine now though) To add to the mess, my dad is very ill and I am now juggling his care and keeping things as normal as possible for DD, though she is aware of what's happening.
Up to recently she really enjoyed drawing and painting, she liked playing music and I could generally get her involved in baking, gardening and stuff. Now all she seems interested in is the TV - to the extent that even suggesting anything else is met with tears and tantrums. If she thinks anything is 'too hard' - which is pretty much everything other than watching TV - she'll do the absolute minimum and storm off. She insists she can only play one note on the piano (she can usually play simple tunes with both hands), rips up her drawings for being 'no good' and will only attempt to read toddler-level books - anything else is dismissed as 'too hard' and she'll refuse to go any further / throw the book across the room in tears if she can't read a word immediately; but she wants the reward at the end of it (so insists that she'll do the library reading scheme but doesn't want to actually read anything when it comes down to it) She's refused to write a single word in four weeks and scribbles in her 'made up language' if she picks up a pen at all.
I've really tried hard to be understanding and to model all the (many, many) things I'm 'no good' at so she knows it's not a big deal not to get things right first time- but it doesn't seem to help. When I try to get her involved in fun things she usually likes, she insists that she 'hates them all' now and only likes watching TV or 'buying things'. She'll also insist she 'doesn't want to talk about it' whenever she gets upset.
I'm sure it's a reaction to all the crap going on with my dad, but I hate to see my usually curious DD vegetate like this, and the temper tantrums are new as well. I have no idea how to help other than try until I explode not to get too frustrated - I know that I shouldn't let her watch TV at all though it's hard to police when I can be on the phone to the hospital at any given time!
Sorry for the rambling post - just wondered if anyone else had been in a similar position and might have ideas about how I can realistically help DD?
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vladthedisorganised · 26/08/2016 00:33
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