I just want to leave

[ashley0710]

Seriously I feel like packing my stuff and leaving my partner and kids, I honestly just can't take anymore my youngest 10 months does nothing but cry fuss winge all day and I mean all day! She fights sleep it takes ages to get her to nap & falling asleep at night is just a piss take
My toddler then has tantrums or cries over nothing to get my attention and has now started creating a massive fuss at bedtime & my teen pretty much hates me unless he needs money or a lift somewhere
Juggling the two little ones all day is really starting to effect my sanity to the point I'm feeling really angry towards the baby, I'm sick to death of it all
My partner only gets home once there in bed so I don't have help there as he works all day & my mum wouldn't help me out even if I asked
I've got both of them screaming their heads off in different bedrooms right now and I just feel so done with this shit!! How do I cope with it all and split myself into 4 different people so everyone can have a peace? My house has turned into a shit hole as I just don't have the will to keep cleaning it up, my ironing pile is just ridiculous and I've yet again a pile of dishes & clothes to be washed and toys to clear away
What am I going to do? I've nothing left to give

[NoneOfYourShenanigans]

Well, I just wanted to send you big hugs. I think we all have days, sometimes weeks like yours. You are not alone! I just steel myself, grit my teeth, soldier on and drink lots of wine when they're all tucked up in bed. Better days will come I promise, they always do eventually! Xxx

[Missgraeme]

If I was your neighbour I would come round and help you out! I had 4 under 7 at one point and it was a living hell at times. Your dh needs to pull his weight when he gets back. Working full time isn't a get out of helping run a house clause. Get the little ones tired out through the day - toddler no nap!! Make a chore list for the teen or the bank of mam closes. If your dh is feeling flush or won't help you then get a cleaner or ironing lady even for the short term. You are doing good - it's the school hols but they nearly over xx

[ayeokthen]

Didn't want to read and run. I've got 2 toddlers and 9 year old with ASD. Believe me I've had my share of days like these, DP works hell of a long hours, no family or friends in a position to have the kids for an hour or two. Have you spoken to your HV? If you're feeling completely overwhelmed and need a break they can possibly offer a couple of hours nursery a week? If it's affecting your mental health, which it sounds like it is. Don't beat yourself up, the picture perfect "my house is perfect, my kids are perfect, I home cook fucking everything while simultaneously ironing and hoovering with my feet" Mums are all at it. It's ok to have a shit day/week/month.

[PumpkinPie2013]

Sorry to hear you're having such a hard time

Have some and

With the ironing - could you afford to have someone do it for you, even just a one off so that you can get on top of it? If not, I'd be tempted to fold/hang it all up and just iron as required.

Is there anyone at all who could help you? I know your mum isn't able to but is there anyone else?

What happens at weekend? Can your partner take the two youngest out while you catch up on housework?

You have my sympathies, it's hard

[ashley0710]

Thank you very much!
I was diagnosed with pnd but as I've been on & off anti depressants I thought I could cope without them using St. John's wort but it's really not working out
My partner is great when he's home it's just he's never home! That's the problem I feel like a single parent with the 3 of them
I have tried that with the teen but I get so fed up of seeing sulky faces I end up doing it myself! I think I need to toughen up there don't I :-/
I feel so overwhelmed with it all like I'm being mentally abused by my kids lol, I love them so much I just wish they would give me a break! I managed really good with my 1st & 2nd but the 3rd one has really taken it out of me it's like I can't read her or anything she wants or needs and I've lost my confidence with parenting her if that makes sense
I keep desperately wanting to get out the house and I plan to do it but I always seem to lose my bottle & stay home and I know my toddler is also bored, I feel so guilty for it I just can't seem to get out the door!
I will defo look into an ironing service that would be a massive help, I'll google one now for my area
Thank you lots at least I know it's not just me that struggles
I thought her being 10 month in I'd kind of be more settled by now maybe I'm expecting to much xxx

[tuffgingernut]

I can really empathise with you. I've found going from 2 to 3 difficult too and often fantasise about running away. Like you, my Dh works long hours and is rarely here. I have pnd too. Could have actually written your post! My best tips are to prioritise, I only iron the items that really have to be ironed. I do one load of washing a day and always put it away. I try and cook a big pan of something several nights a week which will do two tea's such as chilli or bolognaise or a pasta sauce. Don't bother tidying the kids toys up until bed time, what's the point? Hope things get better quickly for you (I'm certain they will)