My DM was extremely anxious and fearful to a point that she is now highly medicated and unable to leave the house. This transferred to me as a child and throughout my life I have had cognitive behavioural therapy, psychotherapy, massive avoidance of anything I deem even vaguely anxiety inducing (therefore quite a limited life) and tried various anti-depressants.
Before I had DC I reached a point where my anxiety was mostly under control and not at all medicated. But since DC I have become an anxious, fearful mess again, experiencing panic attacks when even just the potential of something triggering rears its head.
My big issues are: health anxiety, safety anxiety, abandonment and agoraphobia.
I can already see that my anxious nature is rubbing off on the DC (18 mo and 3 years.) I have tried very hard to conceal it and to look calm. I have never had a panic attack in front of them, nor broken down nor anything my DM did in front of me. I want to be a better Mum than her. But I feel that I must radiate fear.
I already project a lot of things on to them in my thoughts that aren't really happening. One example of millions is this evening is while DD was playing, she paused and looked thoughtful. To me this was foreboding and I was expecting something terrible to happen. It ranged from thinking she was about to have diarrhoea to thinking that she had seen an intruder in the house that I hadn't. Basically the entire gamut of my fears and potential events ran through my head.
Anyway this OP is not really about me, or describing how my fear or anxiety works, what I really want to know it how to stop it transferring to them. I am trying very hard to look and be calm all the time, but I can still see signs that they are becoming anxious too. Or maybe I am reading into that as well. I don't know. Basically, I'm all over the place with it and can't tell what's me and what's them.
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can anyone give me advice about how to not pass my anxiety on to DC?
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signedsealeddelivered · 04/07/2016 22:53
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