She's 7. She's always been quite, erm, vocal about how she's feeling. Some would say drama queen. So if she's not happy about something we all know about it. But most of the time she's actually quite shy, and very loving, clever and funny.
A couple of weeks ago I picked her up from school and didn't take one of her toys with me. Apparently she wanted this toy and I had supposed to have read her mind. So she immediately started shouting at me, while I tried to reason with her. This didn't work so I said calm down and speak to me nicely or I will confiscate the toy when we get home. This didn't work so i ignored her while she screamed. We ended up walking home while she screamed at me that she hates me while I ignored her. Then at home I confiscated the toy, plus several other toys, and said she can stay in her room until she calms down, and she can earn the toys back over the next few days if she behaves nicely.
Today was even worse. She'd had an argument with a friend and they were both screaming at each other. DD then shouted in the girl's mum's face. I apologised and then tried to remove DD from the situation because I could see her getting more and more angry. It ended up with me literally dragging her home by her arm because when I let her go she tried to run back to school, and over a main road. She spent the journey screaming at me that I was hurting her but I couldn't let go in case she ran into a road. She wouldn't ever run into the road when she's calm but she was so angry she seemed to lose control of herself.
I tried to hold her round her middle so I didn't hurt her wrist but when I picked her up she kept kicking me in the stomach so I had to put her down.
She's eventually calmed down and is now crying in bed. She's had more toys confiscated (that she'd earned back last week!) and she's been told she can't go out to a place we were going tomorrow that she was looking forward to.
I feel awful though. She is clearly trying to express herself and isn't happy for some reason but I just don't know how to handle her outbursts. Me and DP have just been discussing it and we're at the end of our tethers. He is suffering from depression so things are difficult anyway, but we do try to both back each other up with parenting.
I just don't know how to deal with it any more.
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Feel like shit, just dragged DD home while she kicked and screamed at me
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iwouldgoouttonight · 16/05/2016 20:05
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