DD is 4.5, very clever, articulate, funny and kind. She has a big personality, loud and goofy. I'd say 80% of the time she is just that, but she can be absolutely awful. When she is with other people, when she's out of the home with us, or when she is at school she's an absolute dream, but when she gets home she loses it. All we hear from school is how helpful and kind she is, and how good she is at her work.
She is an only child and only Grandchild. She has plenty of friends that we engage with outside of school. She does dance once a week. DH is part time and cares for her Mon\Tue afternoon (shes only in half days) so basically she gets a lot of 1-1 time. We are consentient in punishment (she has 10 points at the start of the day, if she gets to 0 she loses her bedtime story. Any hitting or kicking its an instant loss of story. Story is the thing that means the most to her)
The problem is that she likes to be in control or be the boss. She likes to (try to) dictate what she does and when we disagree she flips out. We never give in. She says words she shouldn't (stupid, shut up, idiot) and on occasions she's hit or kicked us. What I cant stand is that she doesn't let anything go. So say we have an argument about doing an activity before or after lunch, she'll have a tantrum, it will end in her hitting or losing her story, she will calm down and then she will try to have a go at getting her way again. This child has enormous will power and can hold a grudge for ages. This weekend has been the tipping point. She lost her story Fri, Sat and Sunday and she slammed her door in temper on my hand bruising me and damaging the door. We are at our wits end.... I really need some tactics to help calm this rage in her. Myself and DH are both calm people (although I do lose my temper occasionally, as everyone does).
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DD is awful at home but lovely everywhere else.
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LeaSamantha · 11/05/2016 12:06
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