I'm really struggling with DS3 who is 12. I've name changed because I'm so embarrassed that I'm struggling.
He can be defiant, rude and loses his temper easily but can also be sweet and loving. He as DS2 (16) fight all the time and are rude to each other and wind each other up.
People used to comment on how well behaved the boys were but now over the last couple of days a number of people have mentioned how badly behaved DS3 is being.
I'm not sure whether his behaviour has deteriorated over time or when it started to get really bad but I'm struggling to remain calm.
Yesterday I lost my patience and old them both I could not cope with their fighting and told DS3 that I loved him but his behaviour was making me miserable and spoiling my life. I'm sure hormones are not helping the situation but it's more than that. He is a very anxious child and over the last few years we have had problems at home which I don't know if I've used as an excuse for his poor behaviour and let it get out of hand or if it has actually contributed. I now feel like the worst mum in the world as we have not parented him effectively, I've tried my best but have spent a lot of time working over the last few years as DH was out of work and I kept us afloat.
Apologies for the mega post but if anyone has any tips on how I can handle him better or we can work together to improve his behaviour or my parenting it would be much appreciated.
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Not sure how to cope with my 12 year old
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havealittlepatience · 05/04/2016 08:39
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