Hi, Have a very lovely 2 year old who has a chilled and relaxed temperament. He loves nothing more than playing with his toys at home, which is great- but it's becoming a struggle to encourage him out of the house for the different activities and things that we need to do. I'm in a quandary as to whether I should really be firm, and insist that we go to the shops / visit somewhere outdoors / attend group time etc, or whether I should go with what he wants? He's very verbal, he talks openly that he finds things noisy / other children frustrating / hates rushing about and that he just wants to stay home and play. He spends one day with his grandparents per week, one full day at nursery, one afternoon at pre- school & one morning at an outdoor play group. He has 2 older siblings and of course has to come along for school pick ups / drop offs & after school activities- albeit reluctantly (a couple of times a week) Some others' perspective on this would be appreciated- thank you.
I adopt a bit of a Pikler (google Emmi Pikler) approach letting things happen in the child's own time, being in tune to their needs. With older siblings there are times when they have to do something, like collect from school so there can be some conflict but you can make those things routine and provide plenty of advance warning. Get their buy in, they help pack a bag, they choose their footwear (within reason). Going to groups is harder but if you know sound, busyness, other children are an issue then avoid going to busy groups, organise things at home or at a friends house. Going to the shops they can love if done at their pace. Going in a lift, going up an escallator, going on a bus, sitting in a cafe with a babycino! Find what appeals to them, I cared for a toddler who would like going to the bank as they had bits of paper (paying in slips) which could be written on. Combine shops with library. Hussle and bustle of the shops then a nice rest in the peace of the library.