Help me stay calm. Please!

[BeautifulLiar]

It's half term, I'm 37 weeks pregnant and I've got a 7 year old DS with autism and two DDs aged 3 and 4.

I've always struggled/clashed with DS. Yes it's good that he has now been diagnosed with ASD and I'm not just a shit mum but I still find it very hard to deal with. He's so moany, negative, jealous, argumentative, controlling and bossy! I was ready to explode yesterday (about half an hour into half term ffs).

The girls are generally FAR easier than DS but I have a very short fuse atm. The 4 year old weed/pooed herself yesterday, pretty sure it was for attention, she kept trying to get a reaction from me.

I have planned some low key half term activities but it's 4:45am and I can't sleep so I'm likely going to be tired and arsey tomorrow. Help :(

[srslylikeomg]

Sounds rough, poor you. I think pretending there are cameras on me and acting like a great "fun calm mum" when I felt stressed (pregnancy makes you beyond tired) really helped! Sounds mad but really fake it til you make it works. Also, another piece of marmite advice: make a decision not to tell them off unless it's actually dangerous. Just let it wash over you and don't sweat the small stuff. They probably do want your attention, you've got a lot going on and a new baby coming. Can you give each one half hour of time with just you? Get the others occupied. Good luck today! You can do this!!! :)

[BeautifulLiar]

Aww thank you srsly! I have actually got a friend coming round this afternoon (shitting myself, she's got three wild boys and I have new carpets) but I'm less likely to throttle someone with an audience

Joking aside though I have been a total bitch this morning. I like the idea of not telling off unless it's dangerous... EVERYTHING irritates me atm.

I wish DS had a sign on him explaining the way he is because I just know people are thinking "control your child ffs!" And I'm ashamed to say I'm a bit embarrassed of him sometimes :(