Hi
We have a 20month old who has never been a good sleeper and I hold my hands up as it's totally our fault. We rocked him to sleep for months which meant he was
Completely dependent on that to get to sleep, anyway after months of endless sleep deprivation we ended up co sleeping - something I was dead against but I returned to work and just couldn't function on little sleep.
Anyway I then fell pregnant with no2 so we thought best start helping no1 sleep in his own room, by this stage he was a complete cot refuser so we got a single bed but stupidly ended up co sleeping there with him as he just wouldn't settle without one of us.
No2 is now here (6weeks old) and no1s sleep is even worse, I suspect due to the new arrival. Anyway I was happy to ride it out a bit longer but we just can't any more for the following reasons:
- ds is completely dependent on us for sleep- surely that's not healthy at his age?
- my 6 week old sleeps better than him! I kid u not, compared to my ds he's sleeping through- it's crazy!
- ds always seems tired and I refreshed from sleep so he's obviously not sleeping well
- husband is now Ill and can't physically sleep with no1 and I can't either as no2 needs me at night (ds can be up down an hour after we put him down!)
- I want my bed and my husband back!
As u can gather I'm desperate now but how do we proceed? I don't want to scar my ds and I don't want him to feel pushed out. I'm so angry at myself for not addressing this sooner :(
We tried cc and gradual retreat before we stated co sleeping but
We must have given in before it started to work properly.
I should also say he's teething/under the weather so suspect I might need to wait a couple of days before starting a sleep regime....