Tips on potty training -nursery won't help!

[Poppytime]

Im starting to tentatively potty train my 20 month old DD. we have had a toilet seat for a month or so and had minimal success with her sitting on it morning and before bed. Happy to sit on it but doesn't always wee, often had just done it so tells us 'weewee' but it means she is in process of doing it! Anyway that aside, DD is at nursery full time, 5 days a week. I was under the impression that when the time came they would help with potty training as she is there so much...well no apparently not, they won't help until she is 'nappy free in the day'. Well how the hell do I get her to that stage if I only see her morning and evening in the week?! Feeling like I will have her in nappies for years at this rate - does anyone have any tips or been in similar situation and successfully potty trained? What more can I do apart from asking her if she wants a weewee/poo and sitting her on potty when she gets up/before she goes to bed? I know she is still young but I'm due dc2 early October and I really wanted her at least dry in the day by then so I didn't have 2 in nappies - but maybe I'm being unrealistic? Thanks in advance!!

[HeffaLumpers]

I think they are trying to tell you she isn't ready. Nurserys don't have the time to devote to potty training kids before they are ready, doing it once they are is different. If she isn't telling you, she's not ready and nursery can't really help with that.

[Mopmay]

Leave it. She's not ready. She'll do
It soon - especially if she sees others at nursery doing it. Save yourself a heap of stress, washing and wet shoes

[wigglesrock]

Yes, I think you're being a little unrealistic and she's very young. I've had two in nappies, it's fine. In fact it's easier than trying to run around after an older child who's not ready or able to independently tell you they need to go before they start going. Most people I know start to train when they've a few days off or take a week off to do it. I took nappies off my eldest when she was 2.6, did it over Christmas so we'd time off to do it. Tbh I've had one out of nappies at 2.6, one out at 2.8 and one out at 2.9. It was all done and dusted between 2 and 5 days, reliably dry during the day and at night.

[Mopmay]

Mine both did it quickly when they wanted to. My experience was those that tried to force it too soon just ended up stressed and often giving up. I had 2 in nappies too. I didn't take time off but nursery did it with me.

[Poppytime]

Ok thanks all - I think I kind of knew it was too early...all my Nct group seem to be potty training and you get caught up in the peer pressure etc, silly really! Will wait for now and not push it...I can see how it will be easier even in a few months when she can communicate better.

[Stinkersmum]

1 - she's only 20 months. Calm down!
2 - how do you expect nursery to deal with potty training when they have umpteen other children to deal with?

[Roseybee10]

She's very young yet. I left my dd until 2.5 (when dd2 was 7 weeks) and she started telling me she wanted big girl pants. She cracked it in three days. We still have the occasional accident two months on but she's been ill for three weeks which majorly set her back.

Much better to wait til she's ready and then she'll get it quickly than spend six months cleaning up accidents every day x

[Poppytime]

I suppose I didn't think about logistics at nursery, just that lots of people at work etc I spoke to were adamant their nurseries all helped them potty train their kids! In reality I can see it's hard...just made me feel more guilty I am not at home more to help DD with these things

[Roseybee10]

Ps my dd had been sporadically using the potty and toilet since she was about 18 months as she asked to. Then she went through phases where she didn't. I never pushed it but viewed the whole process as toilet training. She let me know when she was ready to be nappy free completely x

[Poppytime]

Ah thanks rosey - sounds kind of like what we are doing so will play it that way...

[slightlyconfused85]

It's early. I left dd till 2 years and 5 months. It took 3 days to have wees sorted and 3-4 weeks for her to be confident and happy with poos. I trained her when I was off work for a week so was able take her to child minder dry and nearly clean. You can't expect them to do the bulk of it for you, you need to be most of the way there for childcare providers to be able to help. Leave her for a bit

[ItsADinosaur]

Don't rush it, I thought we were behind my Nct group too but really, who cares? I didn't train DS til he was almost 3 and we cracked it in three days and he's totally dry day and night now. Leave it til she's ready, you'll get there.

[eckythumpenallthat]

I think at 20 months she is very young and possibly just not ready for it. (Although I know there will be some at this age that are) my dd is 3.2 and we started last week. Holding off was the best idea ever as she 'gets' it and a couple of days of stickers/chocolate buttons and praise and we have it nailed

[LittleLionMansMummy]

Mine did it quickly, but i waited till i knew he was ready (almost 3). 20 months is very young. Wait until she is both ready and you have time to commit to getting her started. I took a few days off work to set him on the right track and his cm took over from there. Nurseries have so many children they don't have time to potty train so ideally most of the hard work will have been done by the time they get to nursery.