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I feel sick at the thought of my little boy starting reception

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mrscostello000 · 12/02/2015 01:17

Please tell me others feel the same as nobody else seems to understand where im coming from.
He is a november child so one of the eldest and currently does 3 sessions a week at pre school but the thought of 5 days, full days a weel makes me very sad

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kohl · 12/02/2015 01:40

It's perfectly understandable to me. He's your baby, and suddenly, it feels, he's heading into a world, without you, for the majority of his time. My DD is starting in September & I definitely get a bit wobbly when I think of her in that big school without me. It's important to let yourself feel sad about it. However, the reality is that he'll have a great time, learning new stuff, making new friends, and he'll need you more than ever to offload & to help him make sense of it all. Letting them grow up is such an important part of parenting, but so hard. You're not alone!

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mrscostello000 · 12/02/2015 06:46

Thanks very much for the reply.
Its just such a long day and so much of our time will be gone.
I have all the usual worries but nobody seems to feel it as much as i do!

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ninetynineonehundred · 12/02/2015 06:54

I felt exactly the same way. Our time together was so precious and now I feel like I hardly see her.
Saying that she is getting a lot out of reception.
It's me that finds it hard.
Take it one day at a time but you are definitely not the only one

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Sylviecat · 13/02/2015 18:21

Totally understand. My ds will be 4 at the end of August, so one of the youngest. He is so shy too. I can't imagine him at school 5 days a week.

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DishwasherDogs · 13/02/2015 18:24

Yes, I feel the same. My sweet baby going to school :(

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PeaStalks · 13/02/2015 18:30

I felt the same 15 years ago when DS1 started school and two years later when DS2 did.
I used to wonder at people who couldn't wait to get them off their hands, and interestingly that still happens. I have friends who can't wait for DC to grow up and fly the nest but not me. DS1 went off to uni last October and that was hard. Sad .

Hopefully you will find, like I did that it's never quite as bad as you feared and there are lots more stages and milestones to come.

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Meplusyouequals4 · 13/02/2015 19:13

I felt exactly the same just before September when my DD starting reception. she is a early December child so again one of the oldest in the class

she went to the nursery at the school she now goes to she did 2 full days and one half day when she was in nursery, she had a fabulous teacher in nursery and I was worried about her bonding with a new teacher. as well as doubling her time at nursery.

but she settled in wonderfully she is always happy to go to school, eager to learn and she has a great relationship with her teacher.

nothing anybody will say or do will make you feel better about it but just know that he will be fine. he may get more tired in the first few weeks but will soon get used to it. try not to worry.

have you seen the school he is going to? if not is there a chance for you to meet the teacher and look around the school before he starts?

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MavisG · 13/02/2015 19:18

You don't have to send him. I mean, legally: of course practically you might not be able to, but you can home educate. A big reason for us to HE was wanting to have more family time.

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BingBong36 · 13/02/2015 20:21

I feel exactly the same and have been anxious about it for the past 2 years.. He is august born and I worry for him., I am sure he will be fine but he is like my shadow, I will miss him so much x

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Lilybensmum1 · 13/02/2015 20:29

My July born DS is now in year 1! I too felt like this for months before he started, I was reluctant for him to go full time but he did after October half term and you know what? He did well, he is fine and so am I.

It's the end of an era I understand you all, but it does get easier you adapt and before you know it, it is normal. Go with it, enjoy the time you have now, I have the occasional pang when I see a parent with a little one but its ok.

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