Feel like shit and need to rant about the Inlaws. Sorry about long post
Just to note, love them to bits and it's just because they care but when it comes to DS and health they drive me up the wall.
DS fine and healthy 19 month old. In the past when he has had a cold I get questioned about why I haven't taken him to doctor and I shouldn't take any chances. I generally follow NHS guidelines, eg if cough/cold lasts more that a week to get them checked out etc.
So last Thursday he had a fever that lasted a day. First ever fever. Followed NHS guidelines to visit doctor if lasts more that 5 days, otherwise perfectly happy energetic and eating well. Friday noticed a spot on his bum and some on face and hands and I suspected chickenpox or hand foot and mouth. Again NHS advice to visit doctor if spots become infected.
Saturday I crumbled to the pressure of taking him to docs. DH also a worrier and said I am not qualified to make judgement on DS symptoms. Took DS out to doc, receptionist said no emergency appointments on Saturdays and if CP or HF&M there is nothing doc can do anyway. Suggested to see pharmacist or walk in clinic. Pharmacist recommended camoline lotion as he thought it probably CP.
When MIL came around she said she would have demanded to see the doctor as DS is young, said her doctor always saw DH straight away when he was little and you mustn't take risks with children. She also saw her pharmacist who recommended other sprays. She said he is old as has been visiting him for years. She said its best to see the old ones as they know what they are talking about. I still though it might be HF&M but she had never heard of it so didn't really listen to me, I told her not the same as Foot and Mouth that animals get. FIL also made a comment about having to listen to MIL moan all the way home that DS should see doctor.
I wanted a confirmation of either CP or HF&M so took him to docs today, I wasn't overly worried but just wanted to know what one to still expect in the future. They said there's no treatment just to return if spots are infected. It is HF&M. I told MIL over the phone.
They just came around with more supplies as advised by their pharmacist. Disinfectant to sterilise all DS toys. Barcarbinate of Soda for DS bath??? And also pharmacist said that all children's cows milk should be boiled to get rid of germs (something I haven't done since DS turned 1, I just warm it up now). MIL keeps telling me she does this for DS milk. They also brought over a very good old family health book for me to keep. They pointed out this page, I had to blow away the dust, FOOT AND MOUTH disease FFS. Outlining this fatal disease from animals contaminated milk. It Recommended Barcarbonate of Soda for bath. This book was reprinted in 1948, it doesn't even have hand, foot and mouth disease it it. I let them take it back home with them.
OMG first time I ever felt like crying, I actually just did after they left. They must think I am a really shit mother but they are just unwilling to accept that things have changed in the past 35 years.
Rant over.
Is it me, am I too laid back? I believe I can use my common sense and trust my judgement, I have taken DS to a&e once when he was struggling to breath with bronchioloiiis (something the doc misdiagnosed as chest infection).
Is anyone demanding to see a doctor for an emergency appointment for every cough, cold, fever or other common childhood viruses?
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