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What age would you let your child have a facebook account?

(35 Posts)
Guardianto2 Sat 15-Mar-14 20:28:18

What's the general age for this?

FiveHoursSleep Sat 15-Mar-14 20:30:02

13 years.

Nocomet Sat 15-Mar-14 20:38:16

13, it's the one thing in uneasy about, don't know why as DD2 has had a lap top from 6 and KIK and Instagram from 10 and 11/12.

I don't have FB, and I don't get the appeal. I like being able to close my door and forget the gossipy clique of school gate mums.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Sat 15-Mar-14 20:39:25

13, which is the age they are legally allowed one.

ilovepowerhoop Sat 15-Mar-14 20:41:21

my two have accounts so that they can play the games and keep in contact with the in-laws who stay 300 miles away - they are both younger than 13.

SmashleyHop Sat 15-Mar-14 20:42:41

I'm hoping Facebook will become unpopular soon so DS won't want to go on it anyways. If not, 15-16. DS is pretty immature for his age so I don't think he could handle it well.

MrsPresley Sat 15-Mar-14 20:48:17

I let DD set hers up at 11, on the understanding that I knew the password and would have the occasional look. If I saw something I didn't like I would close her account.

Then I set up mine and all the rubbish she posts, I get to see!

I've checked it a few times and don't have a problem with her or her friends, which is all family and school friends anyway, so I know everyone except 1 or 2 school friends, and I've never seen anything to worry about.

I love facebook, seeing all the jokes etc and keeping in touch with people I don't see often.

MeMySonAndI Sat 15-Mar-14 20:50:08

13 at the earliest. Later if I can.

And yes, I live in Facebook but that doesn't make me oblivious to the fact my child is not yet mature enough to switch himself and the computer off when things get a bit nasty.

When he is good enough to deal with bullying in real life, to know where the line is when dealing with sexual matters and is a little more street wise, he can have a Facebook account.

Guardianto2 Sat 15-Mar-14 20:57:27

I'm asking as my daughter is 13 and she wants one, I'm a bit of a technophobe when it comes to things like this. i have one and I’ve seen the type of spam I get in the “other” messages box.

neversleepagain Sat 15-Mar-14 20:59:21

Ideally never. 15 at a push.

Oldandcobwebby Sat 15-Mar-14 21:03:16

13 at a push. But I would actively discourage her. It can so easily turn nasty, with cyber-bulling, general bitchiness, etc.

shebird Sat 15-Mar-14 21:48:47

13 at a push or when she shows enough maturity to use it. I think they have to be old enough to be able to filter what information they share with others and understand the potential consequences of posting things online.

Also while constant contact with friends is great it is also important to be able to come home, shut the door and forget about all the dramas for a while. If you've had a row with friends at school the last thing you need is to come home and read bitchy comments.

ThreeBeeOneGee Sat 15-Mar-14 21:49:31

13 in our family.

BackforGood Sat 15-Mar-14 22:00:48

13 in our family too.
Why don't you get a friend to help you check the security and personal settings ?
Like you, I have little idea about Facebook indeed, it's my older teens I have to ask for help but whatever settings I've got mean I've never had anything appear on there which would make me uncomfortable, and never had any spam stuff. It would only take a couple of minutes for someone who knows what they are doing.

MysticPeg Sat 15-Mar-14 22:03:34


bruffin Sat 15-Mar-14 22:08:10

Mine had it from 11 and they are 16 and 18 now. They have had very few problems, but they know when to walk away and never get drawn into any nonsense.

Guardianto2 Sun 16-Mar-14 07:35:42

neversleepagain: i don't think never is an option here, eventually she will get one, even if one of her friends sets it up behind my back.

I suppose i should take the plunge and set one up, then get someone who knows what they are doing to check it then at the first sign of trouble get rid of it.

Eastpoint Sun 16-Mar-14 07:42:17

13 but my teens don't use it in the way adults do, they use it for group communications. Eg there is a geography group on which they post homework so if someone has missed a lesson they can catch up. They also use it for birthday parties & outings, setting up private, invitation only groups. My DS doesn't use it at all, he is very self-contained.

17leftfeet Sun 16-Mar-14 07:57:45

I let dd at 12 1/2 on the condition that I have her password and she knows I check it occasionally

Only ever had a couple of issues

One of her 'friends' posted on her wall which then turned into a battle between 3 boys which got nasty

I told her that her wall was her responsibility and she should have deleted it and to be more choosy about her FB friends

The other time she tagged someone in a 'funny' picture, he messaged her to say he didn't think it was funny and she replied it was only a joke and didn't remove it until I told her to

Other than that she mainly uses it for following the bands she likes

17leftfeet Sun 16-Mar-14 07:59:48

And it takes about 5 minutes to set up a Facebook account so it's much better she does it under my control with me setting the security settings, than her do it behind my back like some of her friends have done

cece Sun 16-Mar-14 08:08:06

none of mine have one yet. dd is 13 soon and thinks she is getting an account then. I'd rather she didn't and have told her that. my other 2 dc are still in primary school so not an issue yet.

cory Sun 16-Mar-14 13:38:34

13 is minimum age here, but only after long and serious talks. Haven't had any concerns here: big sister keeps an eye on little brother.

Mintyy Sun 16-Mar-14 13:42:16

I think 13 is too young, personally, but I know that is the minimum age recommended by Fb.

There are plenty of children who are just not bothered about it. Dd is 13 and hasn't even asked. Some of her friends have had accounts since they were 10 confused but the girls she really likes do not.

bruffin Sun 16-Mar-14 14:17:46

The minimum age is nothing to do with age suitability
Its to do with US laws about storing information about children under 12 and under And completely irrelevant to uk.

secretscwirrels Sun 16-Mar-14 16:49:12

Mine had them at 13. I set up tight privacy and I had their passwords.

I think it's had it's day actually, they are older now and use FB only as a messaging thing. This seems common among DS1's group who are all 18 now. They all use twitter though.

Lots of worse things I suspect. Watch out for AskFM in particular.

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