Is this ok? Crying baby

[Madratlady]

Probably a silly question but this is my pfb so please just humour me here:

If I leave ds wittering away to himself in his moses basket it won't do him any harm will it? I don't mean proper crying, just whingy/grizzly noises. He quite often goes back to sleep after a while. Obviously I don't leave him for ages but sometimes I'm finishing off whatever I'm doing/going for a wee/eating something and I leave him for 5 minutes till I'm done. I always feel guilty though (and still feel guilty about not being there whenever he cried when he was in scbu for his first 9 days).

I'm not going to end up with a child who thinks I don't love him because I don't drop everything at the first squeak will I? I have a sneaky suspicion that I might be being ridiculous even worrying about this.

[Bridezilla3521]

Don't worry, I'm sure he's fine if he's really crying then obviously that's a different story. My DD wakes up from nap and I can here her babbling away to herself so I leave her be for a few mins, she's safe and perfectly happy while I finish what I'm doing. She is my PFB so I know how you feel I was thinking the same as you but she's fine, happy contented little 7mo now!

[ClaraFox]

He's fine and will continue to be fine

[rootypig]

Better than fine, because ultimately he will know how to be ok without you (for short bursts, I mean, not months! )

[TheJumped]

Absolutely fine. And better than fine - he's learning to self settle which is the single most useful skill (for you) he will learn in his first 6 months or so!

[Madratlady]

Thank you, I won't worry any more!

[QTPie]

DS always used to "grizzle" to sleep (until he was about 2 or so): "grr. Grrr. Grrrrrrrr. Grrrrrrrrrrr... rrrrrr.... Zzzzzz".

From an early age - at night - we learnt to "feed cries" and "settle/shush/pat/reassure" grizzles. Worked wonders: DS slept through from 12 weeks.

[monkeynuts123]

If he is crying for you pick him up, if he's just having a little moan, let him have it. If a baby is soothing themselves back to sleep after a short moan then they never really needed you at the start of that cry if you see what i mean. It sounds more like you are haunted by his crying in sbcu, he has survived those tears and so have you.

[PotteringAlong]

I agree, you know the difference between upset and grizzle. My DS did, and continues to, sound like a demented seal when he goes to sleep but I know he's not upset!