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Daughter sharing room w baby? Will it be okay? :-(

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Mamabear12 Sun 16-Feb-14 21:00:28

I'm a little upset about this...my husband works from home and will not agree to let the baby sleep in the office/guest room at night bc he needs to work past 7 most nights....he doesn't want to work in living room. Am I unreasonable to be upset and frustrated w him?? I want my baby to at least have a room to sleep and I prefer him not to share our room (I need my sleep to function and I wake so easily).

The only solution really is to eventually move my son (who sleeps in a crib in the hallway at the moment) to his sisters room when we get back from travels in a few months. By then he will be 9 months and my daughter 2.5 years. She is very loving and caring towards him, but I worry it might effect both their sleep? Of course I will only do it if he is also sleeping through the night. Also, my daughter likes to talk to herself before she sleeps! So how would this work?? It would wake baby! Usually I put baby down first and daughter 30 mins after. Do I put them same time? But her talking would still keep hm up I'm sure! I'm so frustrated and wish they could each have their own room!!

Anyone else have two young kids share a room?

Littlefish Sun 16-Feb-14 21:08:20

I think you are being a bit unreasonable. Does he work from home all the time? Does his working partly or solely support your family finances? If so, I really don't think it's unreasonable for him go have a dedicated office at home while your children are still small.

I don't see any problem with your two children sharing a room for a few years. Many, many children share a room.

rockybalboa Sun 16-Feb-14 21:13:30

I don't see the problem. dS2 went in with ds1 when he was much younger than your baby. Ds1 sleeps like a log mind you so no issue of the baby waking him up. Ds3 will probably be going in with ds1 and ds2 at some point when we can be arsed

MisForMumNotMaid Sun 16-Feb-14 21:13:47

My DC did when they were young. When we moved to a house that they could have their own rooms they moved back in together. Theres 28 months between them.

Your DD chatting will become a comfort to your DS over time, sort of part of the whole bedtime routine. They cope even if they do wake in the night.

It does sound like the most practical suggestion.

Could you agree to a one month trial that you will keep going with it for one month and then as adults sit down and review if necessary?

rockybalboa Sun 16-Feb-14 21:14:49

Oh and I should point out that our spare room/DH's office is now spare room/baby's room so DH's desk is in our bedroom. Would that work as an option for you?

AMumInScotland Sun 16-Feb-14 21:15:47

You expect your husband to respect your need to sleep. You need to respect his need to have a room where he can work.

Many small children share rooms with their siblings. They get used to it soon enough and learn to sleep through minor noises.

PavlovtheCat Sun 16-Feb-14 21:16:38

I don't see the problem with baby sharing with your other child. But, is it really unrealistic for you to have baby in with you? Not sure why your DD would be better with that than you?

Mamabear12 Sun 16-Feb-14 21:26:49

I suggested my husband can work in our room. Desk will fit in here. But he doesn't want to and bc he makes the money, and wants his office after 7pm...I guess the kids will have to share a room...once the baby is older and sleeps through the night (which feels like in forever!!!).

I think once we figure it out, it will be fine. I am just worried bc they r young and I like my daughters room as is! She enjoys playing in there etc. but I'm sure once she is used to it, they will enjoy being together. She loves the baby and is always very gentle and kind towards him.

Unfortunately though, both r super light sleepers and wake w any little noise....or at least will stir w a noise. I'm hoping w age the older one will sleep deeper?

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