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I love my son so much I think sometimes my heart will burst.(22 Posts)
Is this normal? Ds is 15 months old and don't get me wrong he is by no means an angel- frequent tantrums for the most random of reasons and inability to follow any kind of instruction- but honestly I am sooo in love with him. It just seems to be getting stronger all the time, is this normal? It's almost like that overwhelming feeling you get when you first start seeing someone special, and you can't WAIT to see them again and you get butterflies in your tummy when you see them and when they kiss you you literally melt.
I'm just wondering if this strength of love is usual? We always thought we would have 2 DCs but I (and DH) have no desire to now as we are so happy with Ds and honestly feel we couldn't love another as much. But then I worry about him getting spoiled as he's the only Grand-DC on both sides.
We have time yet before we have to decide if we have another (I'm very early 30s) but its playing on my mind as I can't see my feelings changing if anything my bond with DS is getting stronger?
Would appreciate any thoughts.
lol I feel the same -- it's great! But I would have another. I reckon the love just multiplies!
please, please read the first thread. Flipping, freezing, sterilizing PFB.
I have not laughed that much in a long time. Mainly because it brought back memory's of what it was like with your precious newborn. Your post does the same!
Yes you are normal. I felt exactly the same and only my fear of him been an only child and having no siblings when we died made me try for another when he was 2. I fell PG right away and I was terrified I would not love the new baby the same. He would be distraught, neglected, feel unloved. I cried alot and then my beautiful DD came along I could not believe it - I absolutely adored her and what's more - so did DS, still does.
Yes there was times of jealousy. First few weeks when I was constantly breast feeding. DH would let me take him out just the two of us regularly though. Just to the park or even the shops but it stopped me feeling so overwhelmed by how much I loved them both and worried about lack of attention. This fades in time.
My DS could not be without DD. The are 6 and 4 now and they can't wait to see each other when DS gets back from school. They like sleepovers in each others bedrooms and have so much fun together. We now have DS2 (DC3) who was a 'surprise' and is now 17 months.
Again, when I found out I was PG I cried. How can I love another like my two? What if this baby destroys their relationship, ruins dynamics? How can I give 3 enough attention. So over that too. Id be the same if I had a forth, fifth, sixth!
I could now not imagine life without my little gang. DS1 and DD adore their little brother and he adores them. Watching them all together having so much fun makes my heart burst. I have overwhelming times now of how much I love them.
Yesterday DS2 was getting upset because he didn't quite have the strength to push along the floor in his ride along car. DD was trying to help him so she ran upstairs, fetched a little pink ride along she had at his age, asked me to tie her car to his. She then spent nearly an hour, patiently driving him round and round the hall and kitchen while he waved at us like a visiting Royal. Imagine if I hadn't had them - makes me sick thinking about it. More to the point, my DS1 would have no where near the rich life he has surrounded in all of this fun and love from his little sis and bro!
As soon as he gets in from school he will hug them both tightly then they will disappear upstairs to build a den or jump on their bed.
That feeling you have, it's exactly the same with all of your children and it stays.
Yes it's normal! Don't use that as a reason to not have another dc. Even when pregnant with dd2 I wondered how I could feel the same infinite amount of love for her that I did for ds1. I didn't worry about it, as I'd heard so many mums be reassuring on that point, but I did wonder. Then dd2 arrived and of course I felt the same for her too. You don't have a finite amount of parental love that you have to split between your dc's. Your parental love simply multiplies when you have another dc. If you feel that way about your ds, imagine how you'd feel with two that you adored that much! If you're enjoying time with ds now, there is no need to rush into a decision regarding having another dc or not. Ds1 was nearly 4yo when dd2 was born, and while a smaller age gap might have been nce with regard them growing up closer in age, I do appreciate the special time that ds1 and I had before she came along. And now I get that special time with dd2, as ds1 is in school during the day. Hope that helps!
I had to pick DD up from nursery and I had another thought on the matter! My DC3 is around the age of your DS. I remember this stage with DD - It's amazing! So I stare at him all day because he does so many different things each day and is so funny. I remember thinking when DD (DC2) was thing age I wanted to keep her in pickle. I used to get upset at the thought I'd never have a baby this age again. Obviously DC3 was a surprise but I feel like this again - Oh no, I don't want you to get bigger.
It's all a bit daft though. I also stare at DS1 and feel sad that he will one day get bigger. I stare at DD and feel sad and I stare at DS2 and feel sad!! They keep growing and I keep enjoying them!
It is a lot to do with the wonder of your baby becoming a tot moving around doing more stuff. Amazing age.
It's not just you. I feel eaxctly the same about DD
Princesspants that's the cutest thing I have ever heard. Your DC sound amazing
Do people feel like this ALL the time. I do sometimes. The intensity is amazing. Then sometimes i'm just going through the motions. It worries me. I'd love to know how other people really feel. DD is 6 months old.
Peter Andre, is that you?
I've just re read that in Peter Andre's voice. It is the best thing that has happened to me all day.
Btw you would love another as much, I have 4...
Is it s constant state for you all? I need to know whether there is something wrong with me.
When mine are little I feel sad that one day they will be older and I feel overwhelmed with my love for them. Being honest it does calm down, you still love them but not that all consuming love from the early years. This is my experience anyway! (I have teens and toddlers)
I sooo felt like that with DC1, I felt physically sick when he moved into his own room, stopped breast feeding, started nursery, school... (he is now 5). All stages when he is no longer 'my baby'. But when I look at him asleep in his bed, its like looking at him when he was 4 weeks old, that same intensity of love.
And here I am with babies 3 and 4 (twins) about to put them in their own room for the first time tonight feeling exactly the same! Worse even as these are my last babies.
period definitely not a permanent state for me either. I am regularly overwhelmed by how much I adore then but also often yearn for a bit of peace, or space or non pea covered floor!
Also, just noticed period that your little one is only 6 months. I found that once mine got to 1 I spent a great deal more time being amazed by them.
And replying to OP - I was the same with DD1 and agree with everyone else. The love you have for the next one is the same but the love you have when you see them being cute together is amazing. Almost makes me want to have a third!!
Not just you - I'm the same
My boy is 10 weeks and I can't put into words how much I love him.
I love watching him do new things - smiling, finding his little hands, making cute noises etc.
I love playing with him and taking him everywhere with me.
Sometimes I just stare at him for ages
I honestly don't know what I did before him as I can't imagine life without my little man x
Aawwww, how cute!! , my dream family is one DS so ha ha, only kidding, so pleased for you OP. Enjoy this happiness!!.
I didn't feel like this until ds turned 2. I want him to be this cute little man for ever. I find the toddler stage much more amazing than baby stage and feel overwhelming love towards him now. Could cuddle him all day. It's certainly not a constant state for me though!
Oh yes I feel like that too about all three of mine. Yesterday I had the parents' meeting with her teacher and it was just great to have forty minutes concentrated talking about her and her wonderfulness, and not even have to share the time talking about the other person's children in exchange!
I know this thread is a bit old now but I just had to add to it, as I have read OP several times since it appeared
mostly to feel normal.
I am absolutely besotted with DD who is now 9mo; I thought this would maybe ease off a little as she got older and less baby, more little person. But, no! I am bursting with love for her and sometimes feel nauseous like beach says, when we are apart and now she's weaning etc.
I don't know if I will have any more, but certainly not concerned I will love DD less or a new baby not as much - every experience is different and there's no right or wrong. Equally, as many have said, I think we all have times in our childrens lives where we excel or struggle, feel more or less love and whatnot.
For those not feeling quite so emo I would say, don't envy those that do, it's exhausting, and chances are those that feel it are pretty sensitive types generally (well, I am!), which not all mums are!
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