Hi, we've been trying for another baby for 7 years now. Our daughter is 9 years old and has learning difficulties. She loves her family life and doesn't want anything to disrupt that. She doesn't like sharing or change and has made it quite clear that she doesn't want a sibling! She loves babies, but doesn't like it if we make a fuss of them. She gets very jealous and cry's that we don't love her anymore etc.
It's so hard, as we would desperately love another child, and I think she would too, given time to adjust. But then sometimes, I wonder if she ever would adjust to it?
She was like this when her baby cousin was born, she refused to talk to her aunty for ages, then cried to her saying "You will love it more than me!" As soon as she was born though, it was love at first sight. Now she wants to see her all the time. She'll even get a few of her own carefully selected toys out for her to play with. She'll just take them back if she thinks they aren't being treated gently enough.
Do you think we should respect her wishes and not try any longer, or take a chance that she will come around to the idea?
My DH if possible, wants another one more than me. It's been really getting him down recently, as it's the one thing he wants more than anything else in the world, and it's not looking as though it'll ever happen. I'm wondering now, if it's just not meant to be, because of our daughter and it just wouldn't be right for her.
If any of you have been in a similar situation, please share your stories, good or bad. Thanks.
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Do you think we should listen to our DD and stop trying another baby??
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mummyloveslucy · 24/01/2014 20:59
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