does it piss you off when people you barely know presume to tell you stuff about your kids and your family

[thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat]

two recent incidents are niggling away at me. the first was a mum who asked me if my new childminder was "better" than my old in a way that clearly implied that the old one was somehow not up to scratch, which is rubbish. the second was the other day I found myself talking to two mums, one of whom I know reasonably, the other I have barely ever spoken to. The latter proceeded to tell the former all about how my dd reacted emotionally to a particular event. kind of went on and on about it. she barely knows my dd and was tbh, talking out of her arse. both of these really annoyed me. I've generally only ever had good experiences of other mums. never come across competitive or judgmental mum sydrome. But in both these incidents I really felt judged by people who know absolutely nothing about me and my family. how very dare they? Are they the exception? or have I just had a really good run of meeting nice mums and my luck's run out. and would you have found either of these annoying?

[hunkermunker]

The first one would possibly have annoyed me - depends what she said and how. I'd have probably praised the old childminder or asked if there was something she knew that I didn't, in a jokey fashion.

The second - that can piss me off a lot. But I tend to just "thud" that sort of talk with "no, I don't think so" type comments that make it quite clear that I don't agree and that they're talking shite.

[thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat]

the first one I just looked puzzled, as in, I don't know what you mean, and said that my new cm was the "same"; second one I was pretty floored tbh, but also found myself thinking, I could actually interpret dd's behaviour in a far more accurate way, but not sure I can be bothered. I mostly took the view why on earth should I care what you think, but now I can't help wondering what on earth makes people behave like that. It's just rude.

[hunkermunker]

It's just ignorance, I think - everyone's a psychologist these days though - I blame Big Brother