DD can be dictatorial bossy, and while I applaud her confidence I also know I need to nip it in the bud before she drives me and everyone else mad.
I try to praise the good ('you asked very nicely then, that was really good') and meet the bossiness with a request to ask in a nicer way. She usually responds to this eventually.
Somehow, she's picked up the phrase "Do not speak to me like that!" which she's now using if I tell her to do something - like "it's time to get dressed/ leave the house/ put your shoes on/ tidy up now".
I can deal with a negotiation - "but I'm just playing with x"/ "Yes, you can play with x tomorrow but now it's time to tidy up" - but she will now say "Do not speak to me like that! It makes me very sad and it's not nice!" in response. Unfortunately, the very words I want to use in reply are exactly the same.
I have to admit that I'm a bit stumped. "It's not nice to shout at people either," is the best I've come up with, but I can't help thinking there's a better approach. Sadly she has a memory like an elephant for things like this so I don't want to use anything that might come back at me later ("stop being a little madam and behave yourself" sort of thing)
God, 2 was so much easier..
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Correct response to awkward phrases from 3yo?
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vladthedisorganised · 10/06/2013 15:39
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